I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
it depends man, some *****es say that to me but its just a flirtatious bull****. But then it could be true and shes just insecure about coming otu with it seriouslyOriginally posted by mazda
a girl says to me in a sarcastic but funny reply on an email "Yeh Mazda I'm strangely attractive to you, I want to be with you" is that a green light to go for her
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Determing Interest Level
STEP 1:
Ask her out on a romantic type date. I suggest dinner, lunch, or something more cheaper like coffee or ice cream. Whatever you choose, just make sure she knows it's a REAL DATE. You can do some fun activity after that, but DO NOT mention this to her when asking her out. You want to find out if she is interested in you on a romantic level, not a friend/buddy level.
STEP 2:
Wait for her answer. If she says yes or gives a counter-offer, then set the time and leave it at that.
If she answers anything but yes or a counter-offer, then go to STEP 3.
NOTE: "Maybe some other time" without mentioning a specific day is not a counter-offer.
STEP 3:
Put yourself in her shoes and ask yourself this:
If you were interested in a woman and she asked you out on a date, what would your response be?
I don't know about you, but I'd alter any unimportant plans to spend time with her. Even if I couldn't alter my plans, I'd sure as hell let her know that I was interested and make a counter-offer.
Now if you had no interest in a woman and she asked you out on a date, what would your response be?
If any of you has ever had a woman that you weren't interested in chase after you, then this should be a no brainer. When I get asked out by a woman that I'm not interested in, I'll give her an excuse after excuse why I can't make it. I'll do this until she gets the hint that I'm just not interested.
STEP 4:
Compare her response to what you answered in STEP 3 and see what category her response falls into. This is the answer to her true Interest Level.