That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
it depends man, some *****es say that to me but its just a flirtatious bull****. But then it could be true and shes just insecure about coming otu with it seriouslyOriginally posted by mazda
a girl says to me in a sarcastic but funny reply on an email "Yeh Mazda I'm strangely attractive to you, I want to be with you" is that a green light to go for her
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Determing Interest Level
STEP 1:
Ask her out on a romantic type date. I suggest dinner, lunch, or something more cheaper like coffee or ice cream. Whatever you choose, just make sure she knows it's a REAL DATE. You can do some fun activity after that, but DO NOT mention this to her when asking her out. You want to find out if she is interested in you on a romantic level, not a friend/buddy level.
STEP 2:
Wait for her answer. If she says yes or gives a counter-offer, then set the time and leave it at that.
If she answers anything but yes or a counter-offer, then go to STEP 3.
NOTE: "Maybe some other time" without mentioning a specific day is not a counter-offer.
STEP 3:
Put yourself in her shoes and ask yourself this:
If you were interested in a woman and she asked you out on a date, what would your response be?
I don't know about you, but I'd alter any unimportant plans to spend time with her. Even if I couldn't alter my plans, I'd sure as hell let her know that I was interested and make a counter-offer.
Now if you had no interest in a woman and she asked you out on a date, what would your response be?
If any of you has ever had a woman that you weren't interested in chase after you, then this should be a no brainer. When I get asked out by a woman that I'm not interested in, I'll give her an excuse after excuse why I can't make it. I'll do this until she gets the hint that I'm just not interested.
STEP 4:
Compare her response to what you answered in STEP 3 and see what category her response falls into. This is the answer to her true Interest Level.