"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What does this mean?
- Thread starter El Payaso
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
btownbuck2012
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"I'm a gigantic c*nt who thinks of no one but herself and needs a convenient way to explain away my actions which hold me totally unaccountable for all of the nonsense and drama I create in the lives of the men who deal with me. What's even more great about this statement is that there are tons of men so sex and attention starved that they will blindly defend me using this phrase to get away with murder. I have a get out of jail free card with this statement, especially since I'm living in the west"
devilkingx2
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btownbuck2012
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This.
Women know what they are doing. They are using and abusing a system that is set up to kiss their assess and constantly pander to them. Don't think that women are doing the things they do because they 'just can't help it. boo hoo'. They are as conniving and cunning as anyone or anything out there. They are simply taking advantage of an overly feminized society where leaders and men look the other way at their atrocious behavior.
Always, ALWAYS call women out on their bull****, even if it means losing them.
Examples:
Case Scenario. Let's say you're out on a 1st or 2nd date with some woman.
Wrong way
Her: "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best."
Clueless idiot: "You know I tend to agree. I mean women have had such a hard time over the years and I can certainly understand their need to blow off steam from time to time. Listen, don't ever feel bad for doing that around me. I certainly don't mind"
Right way
Her: "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best".
Man: "I have no interest, time or patience for that type of attitude. If that is the type of woman you are, then this isn't going to work. Any questions?"
^It's really that simple. No need to laugh or joke about it in a nervous way either. Let her know that you're not putting up with that crap. Period. If she doesn't like it, you dump her and don't look back.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
old_skoolr
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Then tell her "If you cant handle at my worst, you dont deserve me at my best"
Mike32ct
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Since men only care about sex, a real man will accept that I'm a bytch because my over-tanned and tatted body is so worth it.
TDLR: You don't deserve the "goodies" if you can't handle my horrible attitude.
CMNILS87
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This **** is stated by most women who think they're perfect (far from/many issues) and have a "hard time" finding a man. These are the women that are broken and can't get commitment or when there's a boring spot in the relationship they bolt.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
hockeyfreak79
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W0manese translation: You better be good at being my emotional tampon because if you're not I'm out.
TheMonkeyKing
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I take a different, slightly more positive interpretation....
If you can't handle me at my worst"
"I am latently insecure and substandard in some respects, like 99% of all human beings, and despite the façade that I present to the public world, I know it".
"You don't deserve me at my best"
"Though I do have some significant desirable qualities which confound those that are less than desirable, if my insecurities and imperfections are too profound for you to accommodate as a man, you shouldn't bother trying".
The word 'deserve' has both positive and negative connotations when used in the first person. I see how this quote can be interpreted as inflammatory, but I choose not to. It is certainly more honest and significant when compared to some modern neo-fem attitudes.
Long and short, left and right of it; "allow me to be feminine, I'll allow you to be masculine".
If this is something some girl said to you what she is saying is this:
"I'm a spoiled brat that is used to getting my way. If you won't give me my way i am going to do my best to piss you off."
daddymonsterpoodle
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I am an entitled bytch.
Or
I need a strong confident man.
Or
I am an emotional woman.
Or
I am a player and I am giving you the challenge.
Or
Please don't swallow my BS.
Or
I am not a LTR but you are going to have some exciting times while it lasts.
As always, she was nice enough to warn you. Let her actions be your guide.
sazc
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It means "I dont know how to communicate maturely so I am going to give you fvking drama instead" Seriously, if she said that and didnt explain, she is going to continue to play with your head. Move on.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Move on is right.
SgtSplacker
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Reality check that HO with aggression.
ChristopherColumbus
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.