What does she's "scared of pushing me away?" mean in non-female lingo? She caused a bunch of drama the other night, fought, discussed, and everything seems fine again. She mentioned this after talking about how dramatic she gets.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What does this mean?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She might suffer from anxiety. If so, I'd be patient but not supplicating. So if she demonstrates ****ty behavior like the other night, don't let it go - withdraw your attention a bit, don't contact her or initiate plans for a couple days, etc - but give her maybe a couple more strikes than the average girl.
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I'd translate that to she is DRAMA. She senses you don't care for it and worries that eventually you will have enough of her schitt and pull the rug out from under her.luber873 said:
NEWS FLASH BIATCH..........how about straightening up your act and you won't have to worry??? Ooops there I go thinking like a man. Rational logic is just too simple and a lot less dramatic.
Go ahead and define your expectations on how the relationship will operate. Set the bar high. IF she rises to the occasion, keep her. If not toss her to the side because she cares more about herself than she does you.
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It's chickspeak.
It's not supposed to make sense.
It's not supposed to make sense.
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