"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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what does this mean???

smoovedude23

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Ok so I met this girl for the first time a few days ago, she came over to my house we chilled for a few hours, she gave me a massage, we kissed, were laughing, and watched movie cuddled up the whole time. OK so that same night she texted when she got home telling me she got back safely.. she lives about an hr away from me. I was already asleep so I texted her back the next day saying Im got glad she made back safely. Ok so fastforward to about two days later which I gave her call last night around like 10:30 and she didnt answer and didnt call back.... What do guys think about this? Im a jumping gun and overthinking things? or should I consider this a red flag
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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5string

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Respectfully, you should have escalated the situation, pulled off her panties and fvcked her.
 

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if she doesnt call back it doesnt mean anything...mayb she was drunk or sleep or having a seizure due to excessive nonsense in Mass effect 3....
anyway wait for a few days...
ask her out....if she refuse give her a counter offer if she refuses again...then drop her and find a better one...any questions?
 
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You should have taken more of control the first night yes.

Not returning your call and worrying no.

Leave the texting and calling worries to women and the controlling the present with her for you.

The biggest problem here I see is you are seeking Validation from her. "well she hasnt called me back should I care does this mean she likes me or doesnt like me? I dont know!!" <---Stop worrying about what she thinks about you she could be busy or maybe not either way this does not Validate you as a human being. You decide who and what you are and only you.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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^^^^she didnt text me back yet... my text to her was just a response to her text about getting home safely, I just basically saying I was glad she got home safe.

Note: that i didnt tell her to text me when she got home, she did that on her own
 

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smoovedude23 said:
^^^^she didnt text me back yet... my text to her was just a response to her text about getting home safely, I just basically saying I was glad she got home safe.

Note: that i didnt tell her to text me when she got home, she did that on her own

I would just wait it out for a few more days see if she contacts you.

If she does shes interested.

If she doesn't well, probably not a good sign.

In most cases i've noticed if they are interested they will text you non stop.
 

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Wait it out, don't gauge your relationship by texts and phone calls. 90% interaction, 10% texts and calls.
 
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