LostAndConfused
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What does "Try harder" or "You aren't trying hard enough" or any of its variations from a girl mean?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
What does this mean?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
GaryUranga
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whats the context..¿?
girl_in_a_boy_forum
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Hard to tell from the lack of context, but my guess is she'd like to see you put in more effort.
LostAndConfused
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Oh sorry, it was basically from a neg. I mean I know I don't neg as much as I should, but when I do neg usually its quality and I don't go too far with it any more. But on three different occasions I've got something like "try harder" or "you aren't trying hard enough". Its really weird.
:EDIT: I'll give an example. These two girls (I swear the are more than just "friends") were wearing similar outfits and I walked up, laughed and said "thats cute, did yall plan this?" then one of them said "try harder next time." Usually negs like that seem to work.
:EDIT: I'll give an example. These two girls (I swear the are more than just "friends") were wearing similar outfits and I walked up, laughed and said "thats cute, did yall plan this?" then one of them said "try harder next time." Usually negs like that seem to work.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
LostAndConfused
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So does anyone know what "Try Harder" means in this context?
tucking fypo
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lol wow ur username says it all , those girls are just not intersted in you and when they said "try harder" it meant something like "if ur trying to get me or make me laugh, try harder its not working". do u understand wat im saying?
LostAndConfused
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Yeah man I get what you are saying.
But its a real weird way to say "try harder its not working." Like if I were the girls I'd have thousands of wittier/smarter ways of saying "its not working."
But its a real weird way to say "try harder its not working." Like if I were the girls I'd have thousands of wittier/smarter ways of saying "its not working."
Randallpink83
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I think in that exact context as in "nice outfits, yall plan this" .. "try harder" was just her attempt at a comeback.LostAndConfused said:So does anyone know what "Try Harder" means in this context?
You can treat it as a sh!t test.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
ask her what exactly you should try harder with? she means hitting on her ofc. "Doing a better job"
you can easily just ask her if she is so ****ing out of her mind that she thinks everybody's hitting on her constantly, and that she should be able to see the difference between a common interaction and a pickup thing.. you dig?
you're setting the frame that she's hoping to be picked up, but you're just after a common interacton and she should get more social skills.
you can easily just ask her if she is so ****ing out of her mind that she thinks everybody's hitting on her constantly, and that she should be able to see the difference between a common interaction and a pickup thing.. you dig?
you're setting the frame that she's hoping to be picked up, but you're just after a common interacton and she should get more social skills.