Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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illmatic1005

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last week i was talking to a girl and she was joking around on how she wants to give me a lap dance next weekend(which is this weekend)

i ask her today.."how about that lapdance" and she says "no no. im a girl good now. Last week i wasnt but now i am a good girl"

why would a girl tell u she suddenly turned into a good girl?

How can you change it back where she wants to do physical stuff with u??
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Don't you see she is playing with you?
 

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I KNO....BUT WHAT SHOULD I DO?!

Shes the type of girl if where i ignore her or act like i dont want her, she will do the same to me
 

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illmatic1005 said:
...why would a girl tell u she suddenly turned into a good girl?
Her mood had changed. It's believed that girls/women do this often.
illmatic1005 said:
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How can you change it back where she wants to do physical stuff with u??
First of all you need to capitalize on her mood at that particular time (if you don't use it, you'll lose it). What were you doing to get her into that particular mood in the first place? What was her comfort level, was there kino, what had been the topics of conversation, had you been escalating?
 

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challenge her in the moment..."are you sure you're capable of giving a good lapdance ? There's more to it than just grinding away...."
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
(if you don't use it, you'll lose it).
Great advice. Women are like nature, like the ocean, the weather. They change not only within a week's time, but even at a moment's notice time. You have to be the man that doesn't change and manipulate your environment to you. You change the weather, or the tv, or the temperature, not her. She's the wind. You're the stiff flagpole.
 

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Poonani Maker said:
Great advice. Women are like nature, like the ocean, the weather. They change not only within a week's time, but even at a moment's notice time. You have to be the man that doesn't change and manipulate your environment to you. You change the weather, or the tv, or the temperature, not her. She's the wind. You're the stiff flagpole.
That is amazing stuff right there.

I never realized it until now, whenever I start bending and making sacrifices for women, they lose interest fairly quickly.

As for women, they change extremely quickly (and some more than others). Just recently, I had a girl so mad at me she wanted to stop talking to me completely. Two days later, I had my hand down her shirt in a dark bedroom with the door open. I could complain, but why?
 

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Words don't matter to me really, I mean **** if she wants it, she wants it, but you will never truly know, until you try. So ask her out or something

Don't analyze her words or what you think she means, if shes sexual with you, then you know, if she isn't then you can take it from there,

the answer is in the kiss :rockon:
 

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Everybody already said it. A woman's word has an expiration date. It's not like a man's which is set in stone if he gives it. If he doesn't follow through, he loses his credibility.

But a woman's word is only good in the moment it's given. Her feelings might change 5 minutes later rendering her word null and void.
 
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