"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What does this mean?
- Thread starter Paintballguy
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Paintballguy
Master Don Juan
yes you are right.... im trying to.FM 3321 said:
Paintballguy
Master Don Juan
dude don't get down on yourself some ppl can't even get a friend who is a girlPaintballguy said:
does she have any cute friends?
how does she behave when you choose to hang out with your bros cruising?
how are you going to feel when she and you go out and she hooks up with some guy? third wheel sucks bro...
it's true you got LJBF'd but don't let that stop you from pursuing other women, don't get into a funk, etc...
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
It's people like you and other AFC's (not calling you AFC) that give people like HIM false hope in getting his 'one-itis' girl thinking that he'll just get rejected and move on, but wat happens in REALITY is that he finds some reason to not let her go and hang onto some glimmer of hope and he ends up wasting much more time than he should also frustrating himself in the process....
Girls like the one he's dealing with especially with the quote...
"You're too cool to talk to me now, and I liked you too"
PLEASE, I've dealt with 100's of these girls on my way out of AFC-hood, they are nothing but attention wanting whoo0res that want loser dudes hanging on their **** so they can brag to their friends about how many losers they have. Wouldn't surprise me if they get together on the weekends and compare each of the losers they have and have a competittion to keep collecting more...
I know AFC's like this guy, they never learn. You can't be easy on them, they need the harsh reality, plain and simple....
-Cod3r
JustDoItAlways
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- May 28, 2002
- Messages
- 914
- Reaction score
- 7
Listen to what she does.
This email means absolutely nothing.
If anything, it is a good sign. It means she is considering getting it on with you (if she wasn't even thinking about it she would not have brought it up.)
Just ignore BS like this and keep pushing until the girl tells you through HER ACTUAL ACTIONS that she isn't into you (as in she will or won't fvck you.)
Paintballguy
Master Don Juan
Everything I've done with her physically, she hasnt pushed me away. If I initiate kino with her, she will do the same on me. I've made out with her the past two times... I don't really know. I'm just gonna get her to get in the hot tub tomorrow and see what happens.JustDoItAlways said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
the_milkman
Don Juan
That doesn't sound like a "all hope is lost situation" to me. JustDoItAlways is right, play it smooth and try and escalate. If she rejects your approaches you have your answer.
Paintballguy
Master Don Juan
haha your right the ***** backed out so i deleted the number...Cod3r said:
oh well i got 2 girls lined up that i met through friends.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
DJinTraining06
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Aug 11, 2006
- Messages
- 896
- Reaction score
- 3
Paintballguy said:
That line is BS. It's either 1 of 2 things in all my experiences:
1. they don't have the courage to tell u they aren't interested flat out, so they're hoping u take a hint and she'll slowly fade away.
or
2. There's another guy or guys that she's interested in, or she likes u a little but she thinks she could possibly do better so she wants to keep shopping. She may like to go out on a few dates at once to avoid gettin hurt. Which, im learning, is a fine idea and im currently doin it. I hate spinning multiple plates, but its better off, so u dont wanna jump off a bridge when the one dumps u lol. So the #2 case is better than #1 cuz it means she is interested in u enuff to keep u around as insurance. But it's also bad cuz it means she most likely likes the other guy better, or doesnt think highly enuff of u to be content and stop shopping.
It's almost common sense I think. We know girls don't have much willpower. When they really really like a guy they do not waste their chance. Shed be on u like spandex on a fat ladies a$$ if she really liked u.
Paintballguy
Master Don Juan
for sure... from now on i gotta make sure i dont do that again.Cod3r said:Pretty obvious, but at least you didn't paint her toenails... its a win/win
-Cod3r
After you've been kissing/groping/busting a nut all over a chick it will eventually set off one of two responses. (so long as you havent f**ked everything up by bringing it up first)
1. The "I don't want you to think I'm a slut" response, which will go something like: "I'm not the sort of girl who's into casual flings, I want to know where this is headed..." OR
2. The "I think you might be a crazed stalker so I want an escape clause" response, which will go something like: "I'm not really looking for a relationship right now..."
EVERY SINGLE TIME... (side note: if she never says anything then she's NOT into anything serious at all. Just enjoy the sex if/while it lasts)
To which your reply should be the same: shrug, smile and say sincerely "Hey, why don't we just see where this goes huh?" No it's not C/F, nor is it supplicating, it's playing the averages. You'll come across as a genuine guy to both the ho who's after nothing more than some action (or keeping options open) and the good girl who's after something more. Which can only be a good thing.
My advice... keep your mouth shut until then. (Cmon man SS101 here) Even then, KEEP it shut. If she's really into you and wants something more, she will let you know. If she doesn't, then tap it for all its worth but get your other options going before it all falls apart.