"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What does "Take Charge" mean?

Essa Rios

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I've been on 2 dates with this girl and so far things are going well. She
shows strong signs that she's digging me and all that. On our last date she
mentions that she loves guys who "take charge" plus she also mention this
again when she wrote me an email and then put "hint. hint".

Please help me as i don't really know what she means by this. Does she want
me to be more manly and make plans for out dates or what???
I have yet to make a move on her (kiss, hold hands) Please help, thanks!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Chromeo

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Essa Rios said:
I have yet to make a move on her (kiss, hold hands) Please help, thanks!
take charge and make a move, thats what she means
 

Galactus

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Two dates and you haven't made a move on her? Things are not going well.

"Take charge" means make your move. Yes, she wants you to be more manly.

Go get it.
 

Atom Smasher

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You have this one in the bag.

Taking charge means two things:

1) Leading... Take her by the hand and pull her here & there to different locations. Plan your dates and tell here where you're going and what you're doing. She will love all this.

2) Make your move... The other guys have covered this.
 

jtlancer

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She doesn't want to think. She want to f-e-e-l.
Pull the trigger.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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zekko

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She wants sex and she wants you to make it happen.
 

5string

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This is so clear to me. Get her in the house tell her to turn around and bend over. Pull her panties down and follow through. It'll work. That's what she wants.
 

Tesl

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zekko said:
She wants sex and she wants you to make it happen.
Spot on.

That the OP doesn't see this when she actually wrote "hint hint" makes me wonder about how some guys ever manage to get laid, to be honest. Unbelievable.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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joe henny

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Shes asking you to insert your penis into her vagina. Duh.
 

zekko

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This is so clear to me. Get her in the house tell her to turn around and bend over. Pull her panties down and follow through. It'll work. That's what she wants.
But you might want to try some foreplay first.
 

EA Gold

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Taking charge basically directing the show. Where to go, what to do, how to do it. Your the leader, your supposed to know what's best for her.

Basically acting like the father to her and treating her like a child, its either your way or the highway. You have to show strength, courage and confidence to pull this off though.
 

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Sitting on the grass by the river. She reads him some poetry....'And put your youth in his palms'...She closes the book, cheesy music starts playing and camera rolls closer....he just sits there looking at her....cheesy music stops. So she repeats ' And put your youth in his palms'. And he goes 'OH!' and cheesy music resumes as he puts his hat off and leans to kiss her and grab her boob.
(The Man of The East movie about three desperados making a man out of a Nice Guy...very inspiring)

After this scene he finally let them teach him how to become a man in order to keep her. One of the bandits comments>"I've heard about a girl who fell in love because a man kicked about her. But I've never heard a girl falling in love because of a book."
 

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That the OP doesn't see this when she actually wrote "hint hint" makes me wonder about how some guys ever manage to get laid, to be honest. Unbelievable.
Yeah, I'm pretty sure she is specifically talking about sex.
She is complaining that he hasn't made a move on her yet.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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