Tails
Senior Don Juan
lol. easy rambo. i just meant i was flirting in a C+F kinda way way. i didn't mean to say it was funny.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
what does she mean?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I didn't read whole posts but as far as i see from the first and very last messages, she has all the strings and you are the cute boy that has a crush on her.
major major mistakes: first thing first why in gods name did you show up at that candy place.
From starters, you were the cute boy that had a crush on her, nothing dangerous, a cute ball of thread for the kitty(I dont know the english but you know what I am talking about kitty and thread)
then you post here and apparently someone wise tells you to shut the fyck up. So you do that, good job. but you gotta keep the goodwork.
later on, the kitty gets curious. That cute puppet aint plaing with her strings anymore. This is a good thing.. so she sends you an ultimatom that requires you to see her highnessat 4 next day.
You not only obey her higness like a loyal puppy,shaking his tail, but you also you show up an hour early.
here is another thing: YOU DONT OFFER YOUR NUMBER TO SOMEONE THAT DOES NOT GIVE YOU HIS/HER NUMBER.That should be crsytal clear.No ifs no buts..
The unfortunate thing is that you still think that you did not sound desperate. Read what you write bro and analyze! Try to see what happened from her eyes. Were you c +f as you mentioned or did you think that you were etc...
If you still want this gal, well, at whis point i would recommend yuo to totally ignore her and have your fun with othr gals... The only thing that might make her interested in you might be jealousy, although i suspect if it will work..
Good experience though and still a job well done.. It shows that you have the balls to confront a gal. You went up and talked to the gal and tried your best, believe me , that is 90% of the whole deal, the rest comes with practice. Shytloads of guys cannot overcome tat step
good luck and have a good day
major major mistakes: first thing first why in gods name did you show up at that candy place.
From starters, you were the cute boy that had a crush on her, nothing dangerous, a cute ball of thread for the kitty(I dont know the english but you know what I am talking about kitty and thread)
then you post here and apparently someone wise tells you to shut the fyck up. So you do that, good job. but you gotta keep the goodwork.
later on, the kitty gets curious. That cute puppet aint plaing with her strings anymore. This is a good thing.. so she sends you an ultimatom that requires you to see her highnessat 4 next day.
You not only obey her higness like a loyal puppy,shaking his tail, but you also you show up an hour early.
here is another thing: YOU DONT OFFER YOUR NUMBER TO SOMEONE THAT DOES NOT GIVE YOU HIS/HER NUMBER.That should be crsytal clear.No ifs no buts..
The unfortunate thing is that you still think that you did not sound desperate. Read what you write bro and analyze! Try to see what happened from her eyes. Were you c +f as you mentioned or did you think that you were etc...
If you still want this gal, well, at whis point i would recommend yuo to totally ignore her and have your fun with othr gals... The only thing that might make her interested in you might be jealousy, although i suspect if it will work..
Good experience though and still a job well done.. It shows that you have the balls to confront a gal. You went up and talked to the gal and tried your best, believe me , that is 90% of the whole deal, the rest comes with practice. Shytloads of guys cannot overcome tat step
good luck and have a good day
Tails
Senior Don Juan
*new*,
thanks for the post...
first of all, why did i show up? because my bus stop is like 5 meters away from where she works. it's a small mini store that is inside the bus station. i couldn't possibly of ignored her could i? she was right there. so i thought, what the hell, i'll say hi... how can that be harmful? i don't do what girls tell me to do, trust me. i just wanted to say hi, big deal. i wasn't gonna be a stuck up person and just pretend she wasn't there. i was also early because school finished early today. if she wasn't there, i would of went home, i wouldn't of waited until after 4pm (that was the actual time she said she would be there) but she was there earlier.
second, about the giving my number out. you might be right, but why is it such a bad thing? if she wants she can call, i don't care. i'm not chasing no more. i'm looking into other girls now and she can call or not. she knows i am interested.
thanks for the post...
first of all, why did i show up? because my bus stop is like 5 meters away from where she works. it's a small mini store that is inside the bus station. i couldn't possibly of ignored her could i? she was right there. so i thought, what the hell, i'll say hi... how can that be harmful? i don't do what girls tell me to do, trust me. i just wanted to say hi, big deal. i wasn't gonna be a stuck up person and just pretend she wasn't there. i was also early because school finished early today. if she wasn't there, i would of went home, i wouldn't of waited until after 4pm (that was the actual time she said she would be there) but she was there earlier.
second, about the giving my number out. you might be right, but why is it such a bad thing? if she wants she can call, i don't care. i'm not chasing no more. i'm looking into other girls now and she can call or not. she knows i am interested.
Tails
Senior Don Juan
UPDATE:
i'm always on MSN because i have friends on there that i chat with, and because this girl leaves messages for me sometimes. not so long ago she messaged me with this:
her: heya please dont take me not giving my number to you the wrong way i just dont really like giving my number out (especially to guys) so sorry if i offended you in anyway
me: no, that's fine. i understand
me: don't be sorry.
me: just pretend i'm female
her: haha thats a bit hard to do lol
me: hey, im a little busy at the moment, damn homework. so we'll talk later or something alright?
her: okie i mite come on a bit later
me: cool. well i might talk to you then. take it easy
her: cyaa
and she went offline. so she just came online just to tell me that? what's the deal eh? if she didn't care about me why would she go online just to tell me that. hmmm!
i hope i didn't give her a cold shoulder just then. i think i may of done wrong with the "no, that's fine. i understand." maybe i should i said something like: "don't be sorry about that, just be sorry that you didn't give your number to the right guy "
? lol.
i'm always on MSN because i have friends on there that i chat with, and because this girl leaves messages for me sometimes. not so long ago she messaged me with this:
her: heya please dont take me not giving my number to you the wrong way i just dont really like giving my number out (especially to guys) so sorry if i offended you in anyway
me: no, that's fine. i understand
me: don't be sorry.
me: just pretend i'm female
her: haha thats a bit hard to do lol
me: hey, im a little busy at the moment, damn homework. so we'll talk later or something alright?
her: okie i mite come on a bit later
me: cool. well i might talk to you then. take it easy
her: cyaa
and she went offline. so she just came online just to tell me that? what's the deal eh? if she didn't care about me why would she go online just to tell me that. hmmm!
i hope i didn't give her a cold shoulder just then. i think i may of done wrong with the "no, that's fine. i understand." maybe i should i said something like: "don't be sorry about that, just be sorry that you didn't give your number to the right guy
"? lol.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Tails
Senior Don Juan
why? i don't get it. it can't be harmful can it? anyway, i don't give a fuk anymore, i'm almost about nexting this girl. wasting my time. fuking with my head. WOMEN!