"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What does one do when they are not sure about a lady after a first meet?

RickTheToad

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I met this other women tonight. She seemed interested in me, and the conversation was very fluid. After 2.5 hours of a couple of beers and two burgers, we called it a night. She was tired and so was I. She offered to split, I accepted. I prefer women with a bit more ass and boobs. Her face was a bit different, but that could just be because she wasn't overly dressed up. The other lady in my other thread, I am very attracted too. Now, I did not go for a kiss, we just hugged and went our separate ways since I was a block a way parked, she was not far. I do not really know if she was interested, as I hadn't received an another text this night. We were talking about a specific topic which I actually did some Youtube videos on, so she had actually pulled them up on youtube.

Anyways, how does one handle this situation?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Spidah

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Listen my man. I've got a pretty good rule for keeping abundance high and stress low. That rule is treat all women exactly the same.

Doesn't matter how hot she is or how interested she is. I treat'em all the same. The ones who get with my program keep my attention and the ones who don't get DROPPED.

Easy peasy.
 

Tilex

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If I'm not touching parts of her body and getting a kiss on the first date, I automatically know she's going to ghost me afterwards.
I've seen this pattern way too many times.
One thing I learned in my life is a hug doesn't go very far.
There has to be more investment from her.
 

R.U.G.

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Me? Sit back and wait. Just because either didn't go for a kiss doesn't mean it was bad. However, it seems you weren't in to her in the first place.
 
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