MacAvoy
Banned
Do we really need to be like the news and carry a bunch of negative stories about how women are terrible, what an AFC a guy is, I know that we need to watch out for red flags but most of this stuff is pretty basic and should be common sense.
I've heard the justification in the past that in the MM forum, "we all know how to approach so we don't need to talk about that" and I'm fine with that, and I'm all for discussing the logic / theory / psychology behind why something happens and improving in that sense.
However I find all these news stories only serve to propagate the perception of misogyny on the site. I find they are just b1tch sessions about the perils of women. Personally I love women, I love being around women, women make me laugh, women make me feel great, women give me the greatest natural high on earth when I blow my load inside her.
So my question is do we really need threads like:
Picking the wrong man can cost you your life by LatinoMan where it turns out that the women didn't even poison him and served 2 years wrongly in prison but she's still low class but the poor old men are still getting the shaft going to jail for being accused of killing their wives because they had an affair.
Is this rape? by DavenJuan where the women basically WARNED him before hand that she was going to tell him stop (and scream rape) and he was stupid enough to fall for the trap.
If you ever find yourself lucky enough to get married by STR8UP where everyone cries how the one legged hor took his money, when its a well known fact what the law is and if people don't protect their assets, then they shouldn't cry when the law thats been in place for hundreds of years in enforced.
Is a man getting a vasectomy AFC? by MatureDJ. I think its common sense its supplicating behaviour. Are we that naive in the MM forum that we have to repeat this stuff to ourselves? We are treating ourselves like teenagers who need to be taught how to protect ourselves.
Why Beautiful Women marry less attractive men by DJDamage where we talk about how society is promoting AFC'ism. Again this isn't rocket science, society has been promoting AFC'ism to us since I was a baby and I think since everyone on this site was a baby.
Instead I think we should focus on the more positive aspects of looking at logic / theory and the psychology behind what's going on in the lives of the Mature Man. For example we already have great threads like this on the forum:
For LatinoMan: Setting Expectations by DJCT, a great thread about how to set expectations & groundrules in an LTR.
Objective: The man who could cheat death by Victory Unlimited. I won't spill the beans on it but according to KontrollerX, its VU's greatest post.
Power of Perception by guru1000, a great thread about facing adversity and how your perception can affect the outcome bumped in a timely manner after a bunch of us were acting like HS'ers.
Married women, single women by STR8UP, ok sure it was a bit of a b1tch at STR8UP thread as usual but at least we are discussing people we know and can analyze the situation and see how people interact. Plus he finally got laid!
My journey out of the Matrix by romangod, self explanatory but still a valuable thread.
Everyday you wait, your choices decrease by MrLuvr, a great thread taking a look at the diminishing choices for men getting into their 40's.
Red Flags and Phrases to keep an ear for, with examples by Karma Sutra, an incredibly amusing story but very important things to watch out for
Now I wasn't trying to pick on anyone in particular, I just took threads from the first 2 pages of the MM forum and tried to pick a positive thread if I posted a bad news story example from the person where possible.
Maybe I'm off base and you guys really find the first group of threads valuable but to me, they all seem like common sense, stuff that we should know and it just ends up being a b1tch session about women and their perils.
Personally I think being a Mature Man is about growth. Do you really grow by focussing on negatives? I thought growth came from reflection of our lives, learning where we went wrong, coming up with a plan on how to improve, setting that plan in action, then after a while look at your progress, re-evaluate, make adjustments and keep moving forward. To me, thats what the second set of threads contribute to.
Cheers my fellow Don Juaners.
I've heard the justification in the past that in the MM forum, "we all know how to approach so we don't need to talk about that" and I'm fine with that, and I'm all for discussing the logic / theory / psychology behind why something happens and improving in that sense.
However I find all these news stories only serve to propagate the perception of misogyny on the site. I find they are just b1tch sessions about the perils of women. Personally I love women, I love being around women, women make me laugh, women make me feel great, women give me the greatest natural high on earth when I blow my load inside her.
So my question is do we really need threads like:
Picking the wrong man can cost you your life by LatinoMan where it turns out that the women didn't even poison him and served 2 years wrongly in prison but she's still low class but the poor old men are still getting the shaft going to jail for being accused of killing their wives because they had an affair.
Is this rape? by DavenJuan where the women basically WARNED him before hand that she was going to tell him stop (and scream rape) and he was stupid enough to fall for the trap.
If you ever find yourself lucky enough to get married by STR8UP where everyone cries how the one legged hor took his money, when its a well known fact what the law is and if people don't protect their assets, then they shouldn't cry when the law thats been in place for hundreds of years in enforced.
Is a man getting a vasectomy AFC? by MatureDJ. I think its common sense its supplicating behaviour. Are we that naive in the MM forum that we have to repeat this stuff to ourselves? We are treating ourselves like teenagers who need to be taught how to protect ourselves.
Why Beautiful Women marry less attractive men by DJDamage where we talk about how society is promoting AFC'ism. Again this isn't rocket science, society has been promoting AFC'ism to us since I was a baby and I think since everyone on this site was a baby.
Instead I think we should focus on the more positive aspects of looking at logic / theory and the psychology behind what's going on in the lives of the Mature Man. For example we already have great threads like this on the forum:
For LatinoMan: Setting Expectations by DJCT, a great thread about how to set expectations & groundrules in an LTR.
Objective: The man who could cheat death by Victory Unlimited. I won't spill the beans on it but according to KontrollerX, its VU's greatest post.
Power of Perception by guru1000, a great thread about facing adversity and how your perception can affect the outcome bumped in a timely manner after a bunch of us were acting like HS'ers.
Married women, single women by STR8UP, ok sure it was a bit of a b1tch at STR8UP thread as usual but at least we are discussing people we know and can analyze the situation and see how people interact. Plus he finally got laid!
My journey out of the Matrix by romangod, self explanatory but still a valuable thread.
Everyday you wait, your choices decrease by MrLuvr, a great thread taking a look at the diminishing choices for men getting into their 40's.
Red Flags and Phrases to keep an ear for, with examples by Karma Sutra, an incredibly amusing story but very important things to watch out for
Now I wasn't trying to pick on anyone in particular, I just took threads from the first 2 pages of the MM forum and tried to pick a positive thread if I posted a bad news story example from the person where possible.
Maybe I'm off base and you guys really find the first group of threads valuable but to me, they all seem like common sense, stuff that we should know and it just ends up being a b1tch session about women and their perils.
Personally I think being a Mature Man is about growth. Do you really grow by focussing on negatives? I thought growth came from reflection of our lives, learning where we went wrong, coming up with a plan on how to improve, setting that plan in action, then after a while look at your progress, re-evaluate, make adjustments and keep moving forward. To me, thats what the second set of threads contribute to.
Cheers my fellow Don Juaners.