"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

what does it mean if a girl is making bad eye contact?

Kenny Powers

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 1, 2010
Messages
250
Reaction score
8
Location
Illinois
Does it mean the girl is shy, intimidated, not interested? What do you guys think?

I had a lunch date with a girl - it was our first time 1 on 1 - and even though I was chill and making good eye contact she seemed to struggle at times. This was surprising because she made good conversation and would tease me every now and then. We chilled for an hour and a half and she did get better as it went on, but it was just kinda weird especially since i thought she was confident and outgoing.

I've had a similar experience before where this girl kept looking down either side of the street and made shiity eye contact with me the whole time we talked.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

OnTheWayUp

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Oct 13, 2010
Messages
321
Reaction score
9
My experience is that there is very little correlation between eye contact and interest level. Shy girls who like me avoid eye contact almost completely. More confident girls who are into me tend to stare to the point where it gets quite creepy lol. That said, these are only general trends, I've had girls who are otherwise quite confident be very poor at giving eye contact before.

Most importantly, at the end of the day how much eye contact she gave you does not matter one bit. As a man, you need to assume attraction and escalate physically- that's how you'll find out how much she likes you, not by how much she looks into your eyes.
 

bigneil

Banned
Joined
Oct 20, 2006
Messages
8,265
Reaction score
2,644
Location
Texas
Eye contact is the single most important method of communication. If they are not holding eye contact for 70% of the time they are not in love. They should hold eye contact, their pupils should get larger, and they should smile.

Confidence has some role, but only about 10%.
 
Top