"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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what does it mean if a girl is making bad eye contact?

Kenny Powers

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Does it mean the girl is shy, intimidated, not interested? What do you guys think?

I had a lunch date with a girl - it was our first time 1 on 1 - and even though I was chill and making good eye contact she seemed to struggle at times. This was surprising because she made good conversation and would tease me every now and then. We chilled for an hour and a half and she did get better as it went on, but it was just kinda weird especially since i thought she was confident and outgoing.

I've had a similar experience before where this girl kept looking down either side of the street and made shiity eye contact with me the whole time we talked.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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OnTheWayUp

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My experience is that there is very little correlation between eye contact and interest level. Shy girls who like me avoid eye contact almost completely. More confident girls who are into me tend to stare to the point where it gets quite creepy lol. That said, these are only general trends, I've had girls who are otherwise quite confident be very poor at giving eye contact before.

Most importantly, at the end of the day how much eye contact she gave you does not matter one bit. As a man, you need to assume attraction and escalate physically- that's how you'll find out how much she likes you, not by how much she looks into your eyes.
 

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Eye contact is the single most important method of communication. If they are not holding eye contact for 70% of the time they are not in love. They should hold eye contact, their pupils should get larger, and they should smile.

Confidence has some role, but only about 10%.
 
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