What does Genuine Desire look like to you?

[Pierce Manhammer]

I'm not sure who you think you’re talking to here. I’ve said several times on the forum that one should never believe most of anything a woman says to you about sex.

In my post, I even alluded to not caring if it’s true that I’m enjoying the interaction.

I’ve got more experience with women than I care to detail and almost two decades more of experience with women than you do.

I do, however, appreciate your heartfelt efforts to protect my poor, pure soul from this terrible lying wh0re, unless it’s just you being jelly because you’ve never had women say anything like it to you.

But I digress.

I think this is a good opportunity to make the distinction between authentic genuine desire coming from a healthy, trustworthy person and crazy desire coming from a damaged person and which usually ends quickly or sometimes in trouble (for an extreme case, see the movie Fatal Attraction).
A 43yrs old woman from Bumble writing that kind of text gives me the icky vibes.


One shouldn't believe anything a hoe says. On a forum a guy was writing about his experience with an escort who is also a pornstar, and he was saying that she told him he has a big dyck (I think she claimed she was uncomfortable in a certain position, I don't remember exactly). And he was surprised, thinking that his isn't that big and with her being a pornstar she's used with big dycks anyway. And then she told him that male pornstars don't really have big dycks, just looks like that due to camera angles and how they film it. And the guy apparently believed that BS.

 

[Money & Muscle]

Want to know what genuine desire looks like?

/bragmode on

Kinda like this - new plate:

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Always keep them qualifying themselves to you, once they start it just chill and listen.

/bragmode off

Keep this stuff coming man. I live vicariously through you 'single' dudes.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Does it have its moments? Yes, it does.

But.

Would I trade it for a marriage as you describe yours is? Yes, I would.

Keep this stuff coming man. I live vicariously through you 'single' dudes.

 

[The Duke]

Does it have its moments? Yes, it does.

But.

Would I trade it for a marriage as you describe yours is? Yes, I would.

I'm surprised. What is it that you aren't getting that you could obtain within a marriage?

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

I'm surprised. What is it that you aren't getting that you could obtain within a marriage?

I am LTR-minded but have not found the right match yet; I am, however, fiddling while Rome burns. The thing I would trade for would be to be attracted to my wife, who is a willing sexual partner, share a common history, share an intimacy that only develops over the years, share children and family, the warmth of familiarity around the hearth during Christmas and all that comes with it.

 

[Aristippus]

More signs of genuine desire from experience:
She says you're destined to be together or that you're her soul mate. She says "Thank you." after sex. She takes initiative in the bedroom. She cooks for you or does favors for you. She says she can't live without you. She buys you a gift or gifts. She goes out of her way to spend time with you or go out with you. She says she wants to look good for you.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

HS sweet hearts are about the closet you will ever get to genuine desire/love, when hormones are rampant and the curiosity for sex is at the front of the brain. Or find a women who has abstained from sex for years.

A female who desires you will be consumed by her feminine energy and will basically do what ever you say. She will know your every want and need. She wont question or challenge you in anyway. Ever seen and old love scene from a movie, these scenes almost capture the essence.

You are aiming at something.
my purest relationship was at age 19 where I was attending a different summit school to complete high school for juvenile delinquents. Instead of juvie I was placed in that program.
I had a girlfriend attend the normal high school and I would pick her up after school. I didn’t have a car at first so we were exploring the world on foot.
We would ride the city bus together and just walk around the city staying in motels.
I then got a car and she was my feminine side kick. She was there with me thick and thin.
We just had that “genetic chemistry” with burning sexual desire.

She almost had my baby. I got locked up for 5 months and she stood by my side. She would visit me every month. We only lasted 2 years but those 2 years will forever be engraved. Last time I heard she is settled and has a daughter.

Im 33 now and I will never have another relationship like that one. Women around my age have already been rubbed raw too many times and have degrees of trauma to even phantom that clean pureness and feminine energy.

 

[CaptFinnBad]

I think really good sex is the best indication. Once desire starts to drop the sex starts to get more vanilla and predictable.

 

[Mertz09]

I have been lucky enough to experience this a few times. When it's a woman you find beautiful, and everything else seems to check out, it's close to indescribable and frankly almost irresistible for any man except the darkest triad mfers. In effect, she gives chase.

Imagine a woman you think is smoking hot, with all the fundamentals, making an effort to stay in contact even when apart, bringing you little gifts, asking about you and listening intently to your responses with genuine interest, and always insisting on being in contact with you. She learns what you like and at what levels and delivers on every front.

She sees you in everything, and (if you're lucky) you see her in everything; you do things for each other because you also feel a genuine desire for them.

Gentlemen, it's like crack. And then one day, suddenly, it stops, cold, and you're left standing there wondering wtf happened, and she's gone from your life.

Women (most) are fickle and will lose interest due to the most insignificant issues they can build up into massive things. For those who have been lucky enough to experience the above for several years, you're lucky; the longest I've been able to maintain that level of effort from a woman was three years. Either they change their behavior into something you no longer want or just have a psychotic break, and you dump them or they you.

YMMV

Well said my Man. I’ve been there…. A long time ago.

 

[Mertz09]

To me it’s akin to an ember that smolders. It ebbs and flows, sometimes it’s a consuming conflagration, sometimes it’s an ember, it is a slow burn. It’s a tension between two people that is ever dynamic. Sometimes it’s seductive, sometimes it’s playful but it’s always energizing that connection in a dynamic way.

It is expressed through thoughtfulness and touch and time together, and what that looks like is specific is determined by the two individuals in the interaction.

It’s a wonderful thing to experience.

That is wonderfully expressed!!! And I agree!

 

[devilkingx2]

The only desire that's genuine to me is sexual desire. Anything else is easily faked.

The only other thing that even comes close is if she spends a whole lot of money on me.

 

[Thebestthereeveris]

Asking for examples, experiences, etc. Of women who have shown the most prominent display of Genuine Desire you've ever seen.

I've heard some individuals say that a woman has gone as far as to say she would die for him. Some even further than that. I'm not asking anyone to compare to this, it's just an example.

If it wasn't seen with your own two eyes, it isn't real. Personal experiences only please.

They come right out and say what they want to do with you in bed.