"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What does "AFC" "POF" "BPD" and all of that other sh*t stand for?
- Thread starter Blue Hef
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
BPD bipolar disorder
POF plenty of fish
PUA pick up artist
ATM a$$ to mouth
BJ *******
IOI - Indicator of Interest
IOD - Indicator of Disinterest
HB - Hot Babe
C&F - ****y and Funny
CB - C0ck Block
LJBF - Let's Just Be Friends
LTR - Long-Term relationship
LDR - Long-Distance relationship
AMOG - Alpha Male Of Group
AA - Approach Anxiety
DHV - Demonstration of Higher Value
DLV - Demonstration of Lower Value
FTC - False Tim Constraint
OKC - OKCupid dating site
FC - Friend Zone
BL - Body Language
FR - Field Report
LR - Lay Report
MM - Mystery Method
DQ - Disqualifier
DTF - Down to Fvck
PDA - Public Display of Affection
IL - Interest Level
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White Knight - Guy always trying to "save" girls from their problems. Come to their rescue.
Kino - Kinesthetics = Touching a girl (non-sexually) to break down the space barrier.
KClose - Kiss Close
FClose - Fvck Close
Peacocking - Doing something to stand out (many times clothing related)
Neg/Neg Hit - Way of slipping in a subtle comment to knock a girl down off her high horse.
Social Proof - Giving off a vibe of high value, based on who knows you, talks to you, talks about you, is with you, etc.
Wing - Wingman out with you to help you pick up chicks.
Sarge - Term for going out to pick up chicks.
Oneitis - Being stuck on one girl, not spinning plates (see below)
Spinning Plates - Having multiple girls on your radar.
Sh!t Test - Tests woman try to trip you up with during your pickup (and some never stop).
EDIT: Added some more, plus took Mike's idea of non Acronyms
Mike32ct
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SNL = same night lay (same as ONS)
FWB = friends with benefits
FB = friends with benefits or F a ce book, depending on context
NC = no contact
AW = attention wh@re
OP = original poster
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
LMR - Last Minute Resistance
For others, check out The Urban Dictionary.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Mike32ct
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We also have some terms that are not acronyms.
Orbiter = A guy who follows a female around pretending to be her friend but secretly wants her.
Height wh@re = A chick obsessed with tall guys.
Emotional tampon = A guy that is a girl's shoulder to cry on but isn't seeing any action
Duracell_Bunny
Senior Don Juan
There is much to learn in this one.Blue Hef said:
Checkout the DJB (That the DJ Bible) link at the bottom of this forum.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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GFTOW = Go F ten other women
club high = The fun sexy feeling she gets when she's in the bar or club drinking, partying, and possibly making out, etc. But the next day, she doesn't want to know you because the "club high" wore off.
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