"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What does a DJ do in this situation?

NotAgain

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Probably the first girl I started gaming since visiting this site and doing things differently. I've only known her for a few weeks in which first week I got her number and asked her out. Thing is she had a boyfriend.

Didn't stop me from just having some fun I decided. Never talked about myself nor messaged her. Just kept it light, fun and flirting. She messaged me last night about being dumped. Umm *hang on* I've only known her for a couple weeks, we basically know nothing about each other so why would she tell me? Have I been friend zoned?

Haven't been in this situation before so how does a DJ go about this? She's home interstate for a bit before heading back over here.
Cheers guys.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Wait. she got dumped? if so, it's a bad idea. find someone else.
 

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I dumped my girl 2nd, and got her back 4th. In the meantime she went back to her long time ex. Know what happened last night? I drive up to his house and take my girl back. That guy had this girl leave him twice, once for another guy, and once I took her back. This not it, he beat her up a bit, so now I'm gonna gather my troops and go back.

There is a thing called from A to B, and you could be that guy.

What you could do, as a DJ, is not be that A to B guy. But really, if you want some sex, there is nothing wrong. If your game is good, you could even turn this into a long lasting relationship, if you want. A to B guy is just what they use, to get from ex A alpha male, to a future B alpha male, and in between just something to have fun with.

What you want? Quick sex?
 

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Yeah thats why I'm not sure what to do. Thing is, how she described her bf (her excuse for 'dawging' me as she put it) when I asked her out and got declined, made him seem like an AFC and a jealous one at that.

I on the otherhand, have acted like that Alpha male you are talking about. It's one of those typical breakups post highschool and heading into uni. Don't get me wrong, I've got alot going for me atm going out and everything that I've even put my plates on the backseat.

It's just this girl intrigues me. Not oneitis but someone on the same level as I am which is why I'm keen to game her. I'm not worried about being the rebound as I know my game has improved and heck worse comes to worse, I just move on to the next plate.

Think I'll just give her time and space and let that HB come to me then eh?
 

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I think your question is premature, as is the analysis.

You are 19. You are still "acting" alpha. One day you will "be" alpha, if you stop thinking about things so much and just get out there and get more practical experience.

You'll never learn to play basketball by reading about it. Sure, you might understand the game - but playing it is what you wanna get good at first.

Anyway, practical advice for right now: this girl is just a girl. One girl. Not only that, she's not YOUR girlfriend. If you came in asking about one girl who is YOUR girlfriend, there would be something to talk about.

For now, just be chill. Keep growing, keep learning, and keep DOING. Do that, and some day, you will ask about multiple women.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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loveshogun said:
I think your question is premature, as is the analysis.

You are 19. You are still "acting" alpha. One day you will "be" alpha, if you stop thinking about things so much and just get out there and get more practical experience.

You'll never learn to play basketball by reading about it. Sure, you might understand the game - but playing it is what you wanna get good at first.

Anyway, practical advice for right now: this girl is just a girl. One girl. Not only that, she's not YOUR girlfriend. If you came in asking about one girl who is YOUR girlfriend, there would be something to talk about.

For now, just be chill. Keep growing, keep learning, and keep DOING. Do that, and some day, you will ask about multiple women.
You're right. I'm getting too ****y and over confident for my own good. Ok. Time to close this thread off and let it be. I'm gonna stop over thinking this situation and go with the flow. Cheers guys.
 
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