Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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What does a DJ do in this situation?

NotAgain

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Probably the first girl I started gaming since visiting this site and doing things differently. I've only known her for a few weeks in which first week I got her number and asked her out. Thing is she had a boyfriend.

Didn't stop me from just having some fun I decided. Never talked about myself nor messaged her. Just kept it light, fun and flirting. She messaged me last night about being dumped. Umm *hang on* I've only known her for a couple weeks, we basically know nothing about each other so why would she tell me? Have I been friend zoned?

Haven't been in this situation before so how does a DJ go about this? She's home interstate for a bit before heading back over here.
Cheers guys.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Websterdic

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Wait. she got dumped? if so, it's a bad idea. find someone else.
 

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I dumped my girl 2nd, and got her back 4th. In the meantime she went back to her long time ex. Know what happened last night? I drive up to his house and take my girl back. That guy had this girl leave him twice, once for another guy, and once I took her back. This not it, he beat her up a bit, so now I'm gonna gather my troops and go back.

There is a thing called from A to B, and you could be that guy.

What you could do, as a DJ, is not be that A to B guy. But really, if you want some sex, there is nothing wrong. If your game is good, you could even turn this into a long lasting relationship, if you want. A to B guy is just what they use, to get from ex A alpha male, to a future B alpha male, and in between just something to have fun with.

What you want? Quick sex?
 

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Yeah thats why I'm not sure what to do. Thing is, how she described her bf (her excuse for 'dawging' me as she put it) when I asked her out and got declined, made him seem like an AFC and a jealous one at that.

I on the otherhand, have acted like that Alpha male you are talking about. It's one of those typical breakups post highschool and heading into uni. Don't get me wrong, I've got alot going for me atm going out and everything that I've even put my plates on the backseat.

It's just this girl intrigues me. Not oneitis but someone on the same level as I am which is why I'm keen to game her. I'm not worried about being the rebound as I know my game has improved and heck worse comes to worse, I just move on to the next plate.

Think I'll just give her time and space and let that HB come to me then eh?
 

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I think your question is premature, as is the analysis.

You are 19. You are still "acting" alpha. One day you will "be" alpha, if you stop thinking about things so much and just get out there and get more practical experience.

You'll never learn to play basketball by reading about it. Sure, you might understand the game - but playing it is what you wanna get good at first.

Anyway, practical advice for right now: this girl is just a girl. One girl. Not only that, she's not YOUR girlfriend. If you came in asking about one girl who is YOUR girlfriend, there would be something to talk about.

For now, just be chill. Keep growing, keep learning, and keep DOING. Do that, and some day, you will ask about multiple women.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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loveshogun said:
I think your question is premature, as is the analysis.

You are 19. You are still "acting" alpha. One day you will "be" alpha, if you stop thinking about things so much and just get out there and get more practical experience.

You'll never learn to play basketball by reading about it. Sure, you might understand the game - but playing it is what you wanna get good at first.

Anyway, practical advice for right now: this girl is just a girl. One girl. Not only that, she's not YOUR girlfriend. If you came in asking about one girl who is YOUR girlfriend, there would be something to talk about.

For now, just be chill. Keep growing, keep learning, and keep DOING. Do that, and some day, you will ask about multiple women.
You're right. I'm getting too ****y and over confident for my own good. Ok. Time to close this thread off and let it be. I'm gonna stop over thinking this situation and go with the flow. Cheers guys.
 
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