"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What do you wear to class? (college only)

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheMaestro87

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I try to avoid sweatshirts for some reason, unless they are the nice ones with zippers (American Eagle, Abercrombie types). Usually I go for a long casual shirt (not tshirt) or polos with occasion track jackets based on weather. Usually nice jeans.
 

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Yeah I usually do a polo shirt with jeans/khakis. Sometimes a button up if I feel fancy... and I keep it rare so that all my girl friends continue to compliment me when I do dress up.
 

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casual clothing, jeans and designer t's. what most people wear, but i try to avoid that gimmicky abercrombie or hollister crap
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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jeans, tshirt, hoodie, longsleeved tee w/t**** over it, button down shirts w/sleeves rolled up, basically anthign i find that isn't dirty
 

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i almost always wear a polo/jeans.. sometimes i think i am dressing up too much, most my friends wear thshirts
 

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jeans and T with optional hoodie...I'm an easy fvck
 

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90% of college boys:

polo/rugby shirt
cargo shorts
flip flops
baseball cap (optional)
 

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I never wear a collared shirt, flip flops, crocs, jeans(unless its cold but im in the hottest place in AMerica). I like comfort. I dont like to dress up for school, i think its stupid. Girls do that. t shirt gym shorts and nikes. cant go wrong
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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He wants to know what fellow sosuave college guys wear....i think thats the only reason.
 

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i typically wear cool shirts with designs or band shirts and maybe some plad shorts or jeans. girls comment me quite a bit, they notice that i'm an individual and i stand out compared to all over the other polo wearing guys.
 

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Depends on how I'm feeeeeeling. Sometimes shorts and a t-shirt and barefoot (come straight from the gym showers, smelling nice... but still smelling like I've been training)... Other times I like to wear a nice collared shirt, nice jeans and good shoes (matching the shirt). I've got a few combinations of loafers/sneakers/jeans/shirts that all work.

Tomorrow is a shorts, t-shirt and barefoot day though :)
 
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blazer and jeans, with graphics tee, or dress shirt, or polo and jeans...the preppy look in general. simple colours and brand name helps a lot in college.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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stinkyape said:
Depends on how I'm feeeeeeling. Sometimes shorts and a t-shirt and barefoot (come straight from the gym showers, smelling nice... but still smelling like I've been training)... Other times I like to wear a nice collared shirt, nice jeans and good shoes (matching the shirt). I've got a few combinations of loafers/sneakers/jeans/shirts that all work.

Tomorrow is a shorts, t-shirt and barefoot day though :)

Barefoot? How far do you get?

I don't know about the U.K., or London in particular, but here you need to wear shoes or at least some sort of footwear in most places. Are you familiar with the phrase "No shirt, no shoes, no service?"
 

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He obviously remembers the rules of fight club, no shirts, no shoes.
 

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Abbott said:
Barefoot? How far do you get?

I don't know about the U.K., or London in particular, but here you need to wear shoes or at least some sort of footwear in most places. Are you familiar with the phrase "No shirt, no shoes, no service?"
I studied mostly in NZ - A forward thinking nation where it's socially acceptable to walk around a university campus barefoot or wearing a wifebeater, or just about whatever :D - Get away with it in the UK too, mostly "because he's a Kiwi and they just do that sh1t" :D - There's places at most universities where it's necessary to wear shoes, such as laboratories - But lecture theatres, offices and libraries are usually OK for me :woo:

There's places (outside of universities) which will require shoes and tidy dress - mostly only restaurants and bars/nightclubs. In summer, I'll happily go to the supermarket or walk round town with no shoes on - Why not? I can still look good by wearing nice sunglasses, tidy t-shirt and nice shorts.
 

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Just chuck on some flip-flops ("thongs" in Australian).. they are trendy these days. barefoot's just too.. hmm.. can't find the word...
 

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stinkyape said:
I studied mostly in NZ - A forward thinking nation where it's socially acceptable to walk around a university campus barefoot or wearing a wifebeater, or just about whatever :D - Get away with it in the UK too, mostly "because he's a Kiwi and they just do that sh1t" :D - There's places at most universities where it's necessary to wear shoes, such as laboratories - But lecture theatres, offices and libraries are usually OK for me :woo:

There's places (outside of universities) which will require shoes and tidy dress - mostly only restaurants and bars/nightclubs. In summer, I'll happily go to the supermarket or walk round town with no shoes on - Why not? I can still look good by wearing nice sunglasses, tidy t-shirt and nice shorts.
That's cool. I was just wondering.

Around here I've never seen anyone do it. Personally, I wouldn't be caught dead without shoes. But, more power to you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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