"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What do you think? (texting)

MartinARMT

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So last month I added a new plate. Due to different schedules we see each other once a week. When we go out her IL is high and we always have sex.

Every time I text her it takes a very long time for her to answer back. Anywhere from 4 to 10 hours. I only text her to setup dates. She always responds and hasn't said no yet.

I have no idea why it takes so long for her to answer back. Any ideas?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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gravityeyelids

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The results speak for themselves. She's agreeing to go out, and you're having sex.

As for the texting... if you're lucky, she's one of those rare girls that doesn't feel the need to be on their phone constantly. If it's a consistent thing that she's done every sense she's met you, then this is likely the case, in which case you should be happy and not worry.

Another option might be that she read in fvcking cosmopolitan never to text guys back right away, and is running this game on you. Again, she's still meeting up, so no big deal. Dont worry about it man.

Either way, I would make sure that you aren't replying to her right away all the time. Kind of mirror her. A good rule of thumb if you're texting a girl is to take at least as long to respond as she took to text you back (in some cases even longer).
 

BadNews

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Just phone her. Screw texting..call her to set up dates. Makes more of an impression on them anyways. If she doesn't answer, don't leave a message, let her call you back. She's trying to maintain control over the situation, take it back. Don't text her, call her. If she doesn't answer forget about her until she calls back.
 

VladPatton

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Some people just aren't texters, so use the phone and dial her sweet ass up and get the lays.
 

rascal99v

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That's why I always call to set up my dates or fvck dates.

Texting should only be used for communication and escalation, not setting up dates.

A good businessman always seals the deal with a phone call. He doesn't email or text to get the deal done. You should be calling the chick so you can tell her exactly what you want. That is what a strong and dominant man does.

The only time I ever text regarding dates is when the chick asks me to hang out or fvck via text, then I will agree to it, but I confirm the time and day of my choosing. Also, during sexting, chicks will get horny and want to fvck, then I text them to come over and they do.

It looks like this chick is taking a page out of my book, texting at her own convenience. She has become the dominant partner in this fvck buddy relationship and when she finds somebody else, she will drop you as a plate.

Our Anti Texting friends like to spread this lame myth around that guys are constantly texting chicks all the time. Betas will do that because they don't know any better. But guys who are well versed, will game several chicks at the same time at his own convenience.

Chicks will text me at all hours of the day, but I only reply when it's convenient for me. I can game several new chicks and keep in touch with my plates all at the same time.

It doesn't matter how long I wait to reply back, as soon as I do, the texts start coming in. That's how it should be with this girl, and not her waiting several hours to get back to you.

I'm the dominant force in my relationships, because I can drop any plate anytime I want. That's why I can reply at my leisure and these chicks will reply right away no matter what time it is during the day.

This plate is not making you the priority, even though you are getting sex now, she can still drop you at any time. She should be the one waiting on your text, not you waiting on her.

Also, I'm pretty sure that you're not the only guy getting a piece of the action.

I'm not sure if you have any other plates besides her, but I would put this one at the bottom of the pile, and focus on the other plates and obtaining new ones instead.

I suggest that you start calling to set up your sex dates, acquire some new plates to put in the rotation, and don't allow yourself to be the weaker party in your FB relationship by waiting 10 hours for a reply. That's ridiculous. :yes:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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