"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What do you think of women who can't cook?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
In terms of women, I put them into two categories:
1). Can't cook, but willing to try or learn.
2.) Can't cook, doesn't care. Not willing to try.
The first I can forgive. Many people don't know how to cook anything other than pasta and poptarts, so it's not uncommon. As long as they are willing to learn, and help out, I don't mind. It can be a good way get a chick to warm up to you from what I've experienced.
The second is were I get annoyed. I'm not the type of guy who thinks it's a woman's job to cook. I think EVERYONE should learn. It's a basic life skill. If a woman outright refused to be bothered with cooking, it's very likely I can't be bothered with taking her seriously. She's ONS material.
Bible_Belt
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5string
Master Don Juan
My question would be, if she can't cook, what else can't she do? Probably quite a few other basic things.
Any woman who can't cook is lazy in my book. Probably just relies on her looks, gina and Burger King to get by in life.
Colossus
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She doesnt have to be a world-class chef but she should be able to cook decent meals without a problem. I'm old-fashioned that way though.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
5string
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Roughly 20% could cook but weren't great and it wasn't their thing. That leaves about 75% that can't cook nor do they care to.
Women offer less and less all the time. Meanwhile the average man's skillset has grown. Men have also learned they don't need a woman to cook and clean either.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
my mother really can't cook either. i mean, there is cooking to where you can create edible food and then there is cooking to Cook. the latter requires a nack that some people just don't have.
like my deceased grandmother could eat something and without looking at a recipe could more times than not make what she is eating. but she was a professional cook.
and some foods just require practice. i don't care how many recipe guides you look at to make real fried chicken takes practice. not only that you won't see a recipe guide that tells you the chicken will have more flavor to it if you used old cooking grease. that's stuff that's handed down to you or you learn for yourself.
then some things people pick up better than others. like i can grill my ass off but when it comes to using the crock pot you can forget it lol.
gimmeyofonenumba
Master Don Juan
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
backbreaker
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u are confusing cause and effect this is a logical fallacy. one has nothing to do with the other.gimmeyofonenumba said:
the most bat **** crazy girl i have ever messed with, a woman who was married and would routinly spend the night over my house, who poked holes in a condom she bought and got pregant (aborted) while she was married, could flat out get down in a kitchen. every day i would come home, well just about and she would be cooking some real ****.
rather a woman can cook or not soley depends in her interest of cooking. my wife has both parents, raised in a model home and just.. she just can't cook lol. well at least not well. my mother's mom was a professional cook and my mom literally burned black eye peas the last time i was down there for Christmas. how the fvck do you burn black eyed peas.
her sister however (my aunt) can really cook. she usually does the cooking at our family get to gethers.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Hmmm....interesting name Mate,reminds me of my old Dog LOL...."A woman who cant cook adequately either didnt have a proper mother, or is lazy"....Collossus has the smarts here!....I married one of these...She had a good Mother,smart,but lazy and she couldn't cook either....I would take our resident GP's words even further...If the Mother is like this,London to a Brick,that's how the Daughter will turn out...Take words of advice of a fool.....It's a bad sign that doesn't bode well for your Svex life either!