"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dole

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So now that I am on a spring/summer break from university I am kinda bored at home and I need to look for a job. So I was thinking what job I could get where there is alot of girl's involved and that I would have to talk to every day. This way I could over come my shyness of talking to girl and work on my game and so on. I am still shy at approaching random girls at the club and it's holding me back very much. So I was thinking of working at a hair salon as a receptionist. I know it sounds a little gay and awkward but it just might do the trick... What do you think?

Also I am pretty good looking, I am tall (6'3), and I am slim built. I just have this shyness of talking to random girls and approaching them.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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75%PUA

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thats a good start, cept if ur at a hair salon, girls themselves mite get the wrong idea abt u. If ur shy best thing to do is make as many girl frends as possible go out clubbing with them, build social value and then other girls will notice. so in short if u do get a job make frends for ur own benefit.
 

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hair salon bro? common now, if youre gay then yeah thats cool, but i assume youre not! why you get a job at a coffee joint like starbucks or something theres lots a chicks that works there, or lots of chicks that comes in, like the regulars
 

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if possible, get a job as a street fundraiser. It's great for anxiety, and you are in effect, getting paid to open strangers. It's helping me atm to become more confident, although i'm not yet getting many donors. And it is making me aware of the different ways to persuade somebody to do something.
The number of women involved is variable, but there's generally one or two at least, since girls can be better at this and charities are an area with a high proportion of women working for them. And yes, they do employ students.
Now all i need to do is start doing some good approaches in my own time...
 
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