"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What do you think kisses really mean?

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The Deacon

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A typical thing I notice in AFCs is that a kiss means much more to them than it should. AFCs tend to be hopeless romantics that think a kiss means that all their troubles will fleet away and they're actually in love with the chick from the first kiss. Some actually believe that when you first make out with a girl, you're already boyfriend/girlfriend. That's just stupid. I don't strongly advocate Mystery Method, but I LOVE some of the concepts in his book. He says that kissing is not seduction, it is purely comfort. Sure, there's a natural feeling of ecstasy you get when kissing someone you like, but it doesn't mean much more than that to your typical hot chick who has kissed at least 30 guys in her life.

When you put the kiss on a pedestal, fellow DJs, it becomes some sort of sacred bonding ritual (which it is NOT). Just do yourself a favor and have a random hook-up. You'll see what I mean. I just hate chicks who get so desperate, they assume the boy is their boyfriend once they kiss him. That is just so tacky it's painful. Ugh. Don't be like that, fellow DJs.

Discuss. I would like to hear your thoughts on what a kiss means.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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PrinceBeavis

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The issue with Deacon's post is that it says that some males think kissing sort of seals the b/f-g/f deal, then goes on to say that kissing does the same thing for certain females.
Logic would then conclude that kissing, for some people, desperate they may be, seals the deal as a b/f-g/f confirmation.
 
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Gangster Of Love

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Most hot chicks have kissed at least 30 guys? How about, most hot chicks have had sex with at least 30 guys.

Kissing to me is just the "official" or "obvious confirmation" that we will not be in the "Just Friends Zone", from that point on, both parties know that there is a romantic interest.
 
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I admit I have done this in the past. I put too much thought into setting up the kiss, then when I was with the girl she seemed to pick up on my desperation and withdrew her trust in me.Then it was awkward. :mad: :eek:

So, I agree. Keep it natural and casual.
 
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