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What do you think about the so-called "Hookup Culture"?

What do you think about hookup culture?

  • I like hookup culture.

    Votes: 9 18.8%
  • I dislike hookup culture.

    Votes: 16 33.3%
  • I am indifferent to hookup culture.

    Votes: 18 37.5%
  • Hookup culture doesn't even exist.

    Votes: 5 10.4%

  • Total voters
    48

The Duke

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Hookup culture only exists for Chad. Everyone else gets scraps. Therefore it's bad for 99% of men. The other 1% however is having a great time.
Nah, I'm no Chad and it worked for me. I've also got friends that it works for and they aren't Chads either. I do have one friend that is a Chad. He is such a pu$$y, he can't understand what to do when girls are practically throwing themselves at him. He will find a way to pu$$ out.

All you need to do is be better than 70% of the guys out there and it's not hard to do.
 

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Nah, I'm no Chad and it worked for me. I've also got friends that it works for and they aren't Chads either. I do have one friend that is a Chad. He is such a pu$$y, he can't understand what to do when girls are practically throwing themselves at him. He will find a way to pu$$ out.

All you need to do is be better than 70% of the guys out there and it's not hard to do.
The real key to this is standards somewhere just below sea level.
 

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So what are the repercussions of a guy fuhking too many girls?

Too much of anything devalues it , i no longer value sex at all

sure sometimes i'll fancy a quick but generally i couldn't care less about it and the hassle that comes with it

I look at women now even attractive ones and think to automatically think to myself " i just cannot be bothered" and carry on with my day

If i was still a virgin or sex deprived through my early 20's i am sure i may feel differently
 

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Hookup culture only exists for Chad. Everyone else gets scraps. Therefore it's bad for 99% of men. The other 1% however is having a great time.
I'm not a chad

BUT 10 years ago in my early 20's height wasn't so much of an obsession and i got laid ..........a lot

Infact i can't remember a single girl tell me i was "too short" ( i'm about 5,10 )

it wouldn't even get mentioned on tinder

Then instagram took prominence around 2014-15 and everything changed , suddenly women realised they needed "showhorse" men in order to compete

You see women love to compete with one another (hence the shoes and bags) but once the obsession with instagram posts started it really really turned up a notch

All of a sudden everything becomes a major competition they start thinking " sh1t i can't be seen with a man who doesn't make me look better"

Now in 2023 no girl wants to post a photo her with a guy who isn't at least half a ft taller than her

This is where this obsession with height has stemmed from

It's literally so fake and cringe and i practically guaranteed in a few years even guys who are 6ft & 6ft 1 will run into the same problems as girls get taller and the standard continues to rise
 

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A lot of men and women on all sides dislike it for various reasons, what do the DJs of sosuave think.

Would it be better if women were socially conservative and primarily had sex after several dates and official girlfriend status?

Or would it be better for girls to be party girls until they're 30 so you can have plates,FWBs, hookups and side pieces?

I think having to commit to girls and date them seriously to gain access to sex would only actually benefit women. Most of the dudes who don't get laid because they aren't chads probably don't have the income or status to secure a serious girlfriend above HB5 either.

However my game and my looks are better than my income, so I may be biased.
I fear a lot more STDs, unforfilled people and incurable diseases will be spread as time goes on. The females who do not find a mate will fall deeper and deeper down the rabbit hole of life and get lost or just hate everything. Feminism is a means to an end... Literally.
 

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I'm not a chad

BUT 10 years ago in my early 20's height wasn't so much of an obsession and i got laid ..........a lot

Infact i can't remember a single girl tell me i was "too short" ( i'm about 5,10 )

it wouldn't even get mentioned on tinder

Then instagram took prominence around 2014-15 and everything changed , suddenly women realised they needed "showhorse" men in order to compete

You see women love to compete with one another (hence the shoes and bags) but once the obsession with instagram posts started it really really turned up a notch

All of a sudden everything becomes a major competition they start thinking " sh1t i can't be seen with a man who doesn't make me look better"

Now in 2023 no girl wants to post a photo her with a guy who isn't at least half a ft taller than her

This is where this obsession with height has stemmed from

It's literally so fake and cringe and i practically guaranteed in a few years even guys who are 6ft & 6ft 1 will run into the same problems as girls get taller and the standard continues to rise
The pre-Tinder West really was a paradise for cookie cutter extroverts of all stripes.
 

momentomori

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I'm not a chad

BUT 10 years ago in my early 20's height wasn't so much of an obsession and i got laid ..........a lot

Infact i can't remember a single girl tell me i was "too short" ( i'm about 5,10 )

it wouldn't even get mentioned on tinder

Then instagram took prominence around 2014-15 and everything changed , suddenly women realised they needed "showhorse" men in order to compete

You see women love to compete with one another (hence the shoes and bags) but once the obsession with instagram posts started it really really turned up a notch

All of a sudden everything becomes a major competition they start thinking " sh1t i can't be seen with a man who doesn't make me look better"

Now in 2023 no girl wants to post a photo her with a guy who isn't at least half a ft taller than her

This is where this obsession with height has stemmed from

It's literally so fake and cringe and i practically guaranteed in a few years even guys who are 6ft & 6ft 1 will run into the same problems as girls get taller and the standard continues to rise
This is so true. Women aren't interested in men for who they are, they are interested in using men as tools to gain admiration/jealousy from other women by using them as show horses on Instagram. It's pathetic and sick. Also, the guys who are complicit in such an engagement are willing to make themselves be used as an object. I mean sure, they may get laid, but out of self-respect I don't know if I would even want to be used as a show horse.

You're also right about the height obsession. It really came out of left field and I started noticing it around 2016-17 myself.
 
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This is so true. Women aren't interested in men for who they are, they are interested in using men as tools to gain admiration/jealousy from other women by using them as show horses on Instagram. It's pathetic and sick. Also, the guys who are complicit in such an engagement are willing to make themselves be used as an object. I mean sure, they may get laid, but out of self-respect I don't know if I would even want to be used as a show horse.

You're also right about the height obsession. It really came out of left field and I started noticing it around 2016-17 myself.
If you want anything out of women in 2023, you'll have to check your self-respect at the door.
 

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Overrated.

Hookup culture only exists for Chad. Everyone else gets scraps. Therefore it's bad for 99% of men. The other 1% however is having a great time.

"If there is a hookup culture, it exists between a very small percentage of men and a wide percentage of women" Rollo Tomassi
 

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Hookups have always existed, it just on overdrive with the era internet and now guys are just complaining over the competition is so fierce. As for girls it just got worse for them as they now are all fighting for the 10 % and completely dumbed the average guys which they would have dated before the internet became a real thing, so there is way more chicks available for a little dating pool for them, making hookups easier.

Phuck it tho, I have evil plan to crush the competition from all simps, weirdos and alike. I just might set up a dating site where the only one the chicks can date is me! Ha ha :rofl:

(Yep, that is a joke if you don't get it).
 
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It’s not for us why a lot of men here don’t like hookup culture. Here’s the reasons:

- Hookup culture inevitably creates children out of wedlock or a stable relationship. Children from one parent households have much worse outcomes than dual parent. Similarly, stepfathers abuse children at a much higher rate. The answer from feminists is just make with the money - they should be allowed to have children as they please and the state pick go the tab.

-polygamy and hookup culture creates sex relations according to the 80/20 principles. 20% of men get 80% of the women. This is not good for society at large. Look at cultures with multiple wives. They have huge problems with the 80% of men using any means necessary to get some -which is why incest and rape are so common.

It’s in societies interest to have some modesty attached to sex.
I’m not sure what hookup culture is. When I was young often you might get drunk and have a one night stand.

I presume with tinder then some women are literally just arranging sex with strangers off the bat. I used to see this on some of the very early dating apps.

As automaton grows and the cashless economy emerges, I do believe the vision for the wealthy elites is to remove all stigma from sex work, and encourage young women to set uptheir virtual “shop window” on Instagram, by confusing notions of degeneracy with empowerment.

eventually when all stigma is removed, you will have young women flashing their wears on handy apps, and social credit/Tokens controlled by ruling elites to access what they want, when they want.

meanwhile they work extremely hard to remove self respect, testosterone and rebellion from men, so they will not revolt from it. Including removing their ability to earn and attract females so in order to survive, this work will be seen as a good thing.

total bonkers conspiracy idea from my mind but it seems like the end game in mind. Feel freeto call me a total fruitbat.
 

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In hookup culture there is no attraction or tension. It is just physical.

The thing is women will go crazy when there is real attraction and 'tension' but then they give it up to low quality guys in hookup culture but not so easily to the alpha guy.

Its like hook up culture is giving to chad what is meant to go to alpha.

Alpha loses out the most in hook up culture, in a way it us just a disrespect to him.
 

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The fact of the matter is that true alpha males don't complain about the dating climate of society as they know that there will always be women who want to be erotically dominated by a man who can deliver. Many of these men aren't even interested in monogamy, so they aren't judgemental about women's promiscuous nature and ultimately benefit from it.

It's the beta male types who still suffer from the Madonna ***** complex who can't stand hook up culture. The madonna ***** complex is when men believe women fall into two categories: Either a "promiscuous slut", or "monogamy oriented prudish good girl." They need to wake up and swallow the red pill.

The men who complain about hook up culture either :
A. want a monogamous relationship with a "prudish good girl" (rarely exists with modern women)
or
B. Struggle to score casual sex without using any resources, spending non-sexual time, promising a long term relationship
 

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It's the beta male types who still suffer from the Madonna ***** complex who can't stand hook up culture. The madonna ***** complex is when men believe women fall into two categories: Either a "promiscuous slut", or "monogamy oriented prudish good girl." They need to wake up and swallow the red pill.
Man, why is beta to assess the situation and try to stack the odds in your favor? In other words, a girl who is part of the hook up culture is not someone you take to meet your parents or make her the mother of you children...at least if you don't intentionally want to play the game of life with the difficulty setting on hard. ;)
 

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"If there is a hookup culture, it exists between a very small percentage of men and a wide percentage of women" Rollo Tomassi
Yes. Rolo said it correctly. You have to be top 20% to even get a passing glance. Roughly the top 4% is able to get any type of significant attention. The remaining 80% aren't even considered.
 

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Yes. Rolo said it correctly. You have to be top 20% to even get a passing glance. Roughly the top 4% is able to get any type of significant attention. The remaining 80% aren't even considered.
Exactly.

Aaron Clarey, who has been on a podcast or two with Rollo Tomassi, did his own video about this topic last week. Credit to @MatureDJ for posting the link first.

 

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Hookup culture only exists for Chad. Everyone else gets scraps. Therefore it's bad for 99% of men. The other 1% however is having a great time.
That’s me, I’m chad.

I don’t know if I even like hookup culture. I can get down with the idea of banging some hottie and I love the game but, it’s nice to have sex on a recurring basis with someone you click with. My life isn’t a porn flick.
 

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Yes. Rolo said it correctly. You have to be top 20% to even get a passing glance.
This sounds like the situation for the first departmental weed-out class in engineering. Too bad my GigaStudent-99-%ile status back then only translated into a Beta career that did not seem to impress many chicks. :mad:
 
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