7-8 or so years ago i was pro hookup but i was early 20's and enjoyed having sex with pretty much anyone or anything
Now i am older and wiser i dont view it so positively i don't think its particularly healthy for a male or female after about age 25 to be indulging themselves into too many one night stands
I think a ons is a risky move frankly, but I think the sowing your wild oats phase is inherently different between each of the sexes. By 25 women often 'calm down' and reassess, they've been in their 'prime' for some years and change priorities the wall is real
. Their sexual value begins to diminish and they move towards security. Whereas most guys in their teens and early 20s are invisible to attractive women. At 25 now most guys my age are just now getting into their 'hoe' phase as it were. They've had some time to get stronger, make money and hopefully already get their heart broken once and learned some game. If I go out to a club or nightlife setting the guys pulling the most seem to be late 20's early 30's consistently.
Hasn't most of society now disconnected sex from love at this stage ?
I mean look the way society is these days most kids will have had some kind of sexual experience or encounter by the time they are 18 straight men can't do it with each other can they ?
Media paints that picture, but I don't think so. Also, at least here in the U.S sex is becoming less common and male virginity is on the rise. It is a hard metric to measure, but most men here aren't having much of any sex. 1-3 U.S men under 30 had not had sex and that was a metric from pre pandemic...
I don't really buy into the whole men can bang as many as they want and have zero repercussions ..... if i could rewind the clock i would probably skip a whole load of my sexual encounters because they were so utterly underwhelming and pointless
Ok, what repercussions would there be? What correlations would be drawn from a man having lots of sex? The data points that a man can have numerous sexual partners which would have little affect on his ability to remain monogamous and pair bond. For women it is the inverse and the higher their count the 'worse' things get.
I am also fairly confident if you took the sexual element ( aside from intent reproduction ) totally out of the equation i think people would be much happier and relationships would last a lot longer
Why do most relationships fail ? well 9/10 its usually because some has gotten a bit bored in bed and wants to spice things up a bit
Maybe... but if there is one reason we know we exist it is to reproduce so moot point. And a hard disagree on why relationships fail being boredom in the bedroom. There are many other reasons why things don't work out, sex could be one of them though. You've got some interesting takes.
I think in general humans need to have a period of exploration sexually and romantically so they understand what they want and what they don't. It seems to go in phases and it depends on circumstance and timing. If you were a late bloomer or recently out of an ltr/marriage then one is likely to prioritize sexual flings or casual relationships, whereas if you were in a lengthy period of casual sex one is likely to eventually prioritize relationships, both are valid. I personally think hookup culture/dating apps have ruined dating and burgeoning relationships at large, but I simply stopped caring. The system is messed up so might as well take advantage of it and adapt around it.