"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What do you talk about on a first date?

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Hi Guys...What do you talk about on a first date. I have been going out on dates with girls that I met online but the conversation tends to dry up after a few minutes mainly because the questions that you would have asked are already answered on her online profile. What do you guys usually talk about to keep the conversation going?....Thanks
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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lastking said:
Hi Guys...What do you talk about on a first date. I have been going out on dates with girls that I met online but the conversation tends to dry up after a few minutes mainly because the questions that you would have asked are already answered on her online profile. What do you guys usually talk about to keep the conversation going?....Thanks
Talk about herself. Let's say you ask what she likes to do and she say's she likes to go bowling, you can either respond in a playful manner or elaborate on the subject. Personally, I would respond in a playful manner and poke at it. I think I would either say something like: "Oh so you're the one who keeps score?" or "I'm guessing everyone leaves a lane open when you're up." With a smirk/smile. It's all in a good fun of course. If she takes it seriously, then she's probably not my preference of a girl. Of course you can elaborate on it or do a combination of the two instead. Like: "What makes it so enjoyable?" or something like that, me personally am not very good at that "elaborating" part because I don't enjoy small talk. I'm more of a "have fun, don't really care" type of guy.

Dating is, after all, learning about her. Not so much about you since were a mystery, but basically learning about her and showing her how to have a good time. This creates an opportunity for sex to happen through attraction(mystery) and having a good time.
 

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Tell her a great story to get her in a really good mood. Then end the date be leaving. She'll be begging to see you again. If not, she doesn't give 2 shıts about you. Call it a guy's shıt test.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Anything as long as it's an interesting subject for her. I suggest you to read DJBible step 7.
 

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I talk about anything and everything around us, and make humor out of it.

Going to an adult bookstore is a fun first date thing. You can comment on the stuff in there and let her know you are sexual but without directly being sexual with her (before the night is over). To this day one of my ex GFs who I broke up with about 7 years ago, if we talk in passing or on FB she mentions every time "I still can't believe you took me to XXX Adult Bookstore on our first date! That was such a blast! I will never forget it!"

Also, one time I took a girl to a bar on a first date that I knew was a sausage fest of horney AFCs. I dropped her off at the door before parking my truck. I told her "I want you to start counting seconds from the time you step through that door until some chump hits on you. I will be in in 10 minutes. I bet you $10.00 you will be hit on in less than 5." When I got in the AFC victim had just barely said "Hi" before I arrived and sat down. We joked about him and had a really good time, and I fvcked her later that night. Doing this showed her I was confident as hell to let her go into a sausage AFC bar by herself. :up:
 

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YawataNoKami said:
Ask questions , let her talk.
Pretty much this. Get her talking about herself. But your job is to make sure you're listening.

I was on a first date last night and I would say 50% of it, she was showing me pics on her phone of herself doing various things and each one had some story behind it. I would pretend to show interest by asking questions about the pics. Occasionally, I would drop some teasing comments and she would slap my shoulder playfully. Built great rapport.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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