Hi Guys...What do you talk about on a first date. I have been going out on dates with girls that I met online but the conversation tends to dry up after a few minutes mainly because the questions that you would have asked are already answered on her online profile. What do you guys usually talk about to keep the conversation going?....Thanks
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What do you talk about on a first date?
- Thread starter lastking
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Skyline
Master Don Juan
Talk about herself. Let's say you ask what she likes to do and she say's she likes to go bowling, you can either respond in a playful manner or elaborate on the subject. Personally, I would respond in a playful manner and poke at it. I think I would either say something like: "Oh so you're the one who keeps score?" or "I'm guessing everyone leaves a lane open when you're up." With a smirk/smile. It's all in a good fun of course. If she takes it seriously, then she's probably not my preference of a girl. Of course you can elaborate on it or do a combination of the two instead. Like: "What makes it so enjoyable?" or something like that, me personally am not very good at that "elaborating" part because I don't enjoy small talk. I'm more of a "have fun, don't really care" type of guy.lastking said:
Dating is, after all, learning about her. Not so much about you since were a mystery, but basically learning about her and showing her how to have a good time. This creates an opportunity for sex to happen through attraction(mystery) and having a good time.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Tell her a great story to get her in a really good mood. Then end the date be leaving. She'll be begging to see you again. If not, she doesn't give 2 shıts about you. Call it a guy's shıt test.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
YawataNoKami
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Ask questions , let her talk.
logicallefty
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I talk about anything and everything around us, and make humor out of it.
Going to an adult bookstore is a fun first date thing. You can comment on the stuff in there and let her know you are sexual but without directly being sexual with her (before the night is over). To this day one of my ex GFs who I broke up with about 7 years ago, if we talk in passing or on FB she mentions every time "I still can't believe you took me to XXX Adult Bookstore on our first date! That was such a blast! I will never forget it!"
Also, one time I took a girl to a bar on a first date that I knew was a sausage fest of horney AFCs. I dropped her off at the door before parking my truck. I told her "I want you to start counting seconds from the time you step through that door until some chump hits on you. I will be in in 10 minutes. I bet you $10.00 you will be hit on in less than 5." When I got in the AFC victim had just barely said "Hi" before I arrived and sat down. We joked about him and had a really good time, and I fvcked her later that night. Doing this showed her I was confident as hell to let her go into a sausage AFC bar by herself.
Going to an adult bookstore is a fun first date thing. You can comment on the stuff in there and let her know you are sexual but without directly being sexual with her (before the night is over). To this day one of my ex GFs who I broke up with about 7 years ago, if we talk in passing or on FB she mentions every time "I still can't believe you took me to XXX Adult Bookstore on our first date! That was such a blast! I will never forget it!"
Also, one time I took a girl to a bar on a first date that I knew was a sausage fest of horney AFCs. I dropped her off at the door before parking my truck. I told her "I want you to start counting seconds from the time you step through that door until some chump hits on you. I will be in in 10 minutes. I bet you $10.00 you will be hit on in less than 5." When I got in the AFC victim had just barely said "Hi" before I arrived and sat down. We joked about him and had a really good time, and I fvcked her later that night. Doing this showed her I was confident as hell to let her go into a sausage AFC bar by herself.
Pretty much this. Get her talking about herself. But your job is to make sure you're listening.YawataNoKami said:
I was on a first date last night and I would say 50% of it, she was showing me pics on her phone of herself doing various things and each one had some story behind it. I would pretend to show interest by asking questions about the pics. Occasionally, I would drop some teasing comments and she would slap my shoulder playfully. Built great rapport.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.