What do you STILL don't get about women after being a player for a decent amount of time?

[Hamurabimbi]

Im gonna go on a limb here and answer that for you.

He's in an LTR, his woman desires him a lot, he does his thing and its not all the time with her. Typical woman, when she doesn't hear from him or he gives her distance, $hit test him, causing anxiety on her and she reacts neurotic. Because an anxious women is a woman in love.

Search the shadow in women by Carl Jung, everything makes perfect sense.

Fairly good analysis.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

If you don’t mind sharing, how so?

This is my work life. Very chaotic. I never am sure where I am going or what I’ll be doing.

Most of my jobs have been like that.
And. They’re risky.

I like that.
I do carry this to relationships to a degree as well.

I’m middle aged now, so the chaos & risk taking are less than before.

 

[Mike32ct]

Not a player, but I always wondered why women often put a strict expiration date on initial attraction. Men don’t usually do this.

Women: “He didn’t make a move on me by the second date. I’ll ghost or friendzone him permanently lol.”

Men: “I’d still bang my old crush from 15 years ago if we re-connected today, even though nothing ever happened between us lol.”

 

[SW15]

Not a player, but I always wondered why women often put a strict expiration date on initial attraction. Men don’t usually do this.

Women: “He didn’t make a move on me by the second date. I’ll ghost or friendzone him permanently lol.”

Attraction Has an Expiration Date

A guy meets a girl he likes. He starts talking to her, and there's electricity in the air. Attraction. He can tell she likes him. A lot, even. She tells him all kinds of things about herself, her eyes wide and filled with excitement. It feels as though there's a bubble around them, in which only...

www.girlschase.com

 

[Manure Spherian]

Women: “He didn’t make a move on me by the second date. I’ll ghost or friendzone him permanently lol.”

I had two women back in the day ask why I didn’t kiss them after two hour first dates from Internet dating. I actually still was rusty about IOI’s and still suffering from poor self image a bit in my mid 20s (residuals from that issue in younger years). said to one, “I didn’t know you wanted to kiss a guy you barely know.” Another one flat out ditched me after not getting physical by the second date. I learned my lessons.

 

[Barrister]

Should we always be aloof? You catch yourself having a natural reaction to something "silly."

Do we have to throw our emotions in the trash for a woman? If a woman nags/disrespects me, or says something retarded enough times, I will either cut her out or respond with anything but aloofness. I feel that aiming to be completely aloof for the sake of appearing poised to a woman is disingenuous and a betrayal of self, unless that's who you really are. Give them a taste of their own medicine, man or woman

I think there’s merit to this position. I also think think it’s far more frustrating to engage in argument with a woman who is never going to see reason and instead always choose (consciously or subconsciously) to approach whatever it is from an emotional standpoint. So at end of the day I think being aloof even if there’s a part of you that absolutely wants to explain why she’s wrong is usually (not always) the right call.

 

[BadBoy89]

Not a player, but I always wondered why women often put a strict expiration date on initial attraction. Men don’t usually do this.

Women: “He didn’t make a move on me by the second date. I’ll ghost or friendzone him permanently lol.”

Men: “I’d still bang my old crush from 15 years ago if we re-connected today, even though nothing ever happened between us lol.”

Women are on the clock, their time is much more valuable than men and they have to categorize men fast.

Men also just need to have attraction to have sex. Women need a reason, time, place, etc, etc, etc.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Sexually female motivations can be quite the puzzle

Men will mostly be down for sex with a reasonably attractive partner by default of testosterone production

Women have far far more variables that will dictate wether they want to have sex or not

And theres hell of a lot of women in the world who have learnt from a young age to use sex as a both a manipulator and leverage

Its almost like they can switch between sexual frames depending on how they perceive the male they are having sex with

Men don't really do this ..... sex is sex for us nothing more nothing less we see an attractive girl we want to have sex with and thats that

Women I think have so many different factors to consider such as economic benefit , social status , pleasure , kinks , attraction , emotional attachment and then of course just sheer impulse

It gets even weirder when you sort of realise as a man you have power within a dominance and abundance mindset to virtually override all of her variables and basically psychologically dominate her into having sex

This is I think what Strauss , Mystery and Ross Jefferies stumbled onto back in the early 2000's but absolutely nobody has been able too quantify it since

 

[Oatmeal31]

Not a player, but I always wondered why women often put a strict expiration date on initial attraction. Men don’t usually do this.

Women: “He didn’t make a move on me by the second date. I’ll ghost or friendzone him permanently lol.”

Men: “I’d still bang my old crush from 15 years ago if we re-connected today, even though nothing ever happened between us lol.”

Perfectly put what I had in mind into words. Baffles me

 

[Smok1nAce]

A guy told me at 21 that there’s a book being written about women the pun of the joke was it’s still being written.

After 10 years I completely get what he was saying.

I think as a society women are strung along by men. They know it and strong minded men know this. Don’t take women seriously.