Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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What do you say????

pg5781

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I posted a situation a few days ago regarding a girl i dated a few months ago. If you want the details follow this link: http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=48379 .

Anyways, my question is, I called her and said we should hang out sometime next week. She said definitley and for me to call her. I plan on calling her tonight to set something up for Wednesday night since that's the only night this week i'm available. My question to you guys is how do you handle the situation when the girl can't hang out the night you request to. For example (after a little chit chat):

Me: how bout we get together Wednesday night at so and so
Her: so sorry i cant do it that night, i have to do blah blah blah
Me: ?

Would you guys follow up with:
a) requesting another date to meet her
b) some kind of c&f response (if so, some examples would be good)
c) "no problem i'll give you a call some other time"
d) any other suggestions from you guys

I just want to cover all the bases in case she cant do anything Wednesday night and would like to have a dj response if thats the case. How would you guys respond to the situation above?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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HuuBinh

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don't say anything afterwards, usually if the girl is interested, she'll make an offer to reschedule.
 

pg5781

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Originally posted by HuuBinh
don't say anything afterwards, usually if the girl is interested, she'll make an offer to reschedule.
My question was based on the assumption that she doesnt make an offer to re-schedule. I cant sit their silently on the phone so what do you say where you dont come out looking like an AFC?
 

DJ_Dork

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Well usually when I ask for a date, I give her two days. Such as if I'm calling on Tuesday, it's Thurs/Fri. If she says she's busy and offers no counter offer.. I ignore her for 2 weeks/act aloof on emails/calls.

Always remember that when a girl really likes you, she will make time for you. When she doesn't - she doesn't like you in that way. Even if she is not doing ANYTHING on the day you request - she does this out of respect for herself (ie. playing games) so keep your respect and ignore her.
 
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