A woman says something like "you are just sitting here playing with your computer while I work around all day" about a guy thats really working (remote work or owns his own company). What is this indicative of and what/how should one reply?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What do you reply if a woman is degrading your job?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Personally, it would be like water off a ducks back with me. Who cares what she thinks.... usually when I girl is attempting to push my buttons I respond with the goal of getting her fired up even more. I would probably respond maybe you should have done better in school then you could get paid to f around all day and do nothing. Or something like if you keep working hard maybe I will hire you as my secretary.
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That sounds like she's envious, which is a form of flattery.
Unless you really are just sitting around doing nothing, not even trying, and sapping up taxpayer money. Then you're just a leech.
Everyone has some kind of mental issue. Some people figure out how to use it to their advantage to make something in the world. Others use it as an excuse to do nothing. It's not the disorder, it's your response to it that defines you.
If a woman says what you mentioned about my job I'd poke fun at her for being envious.
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Who Dares Win
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"yeah yeah I know, isnt it great?"
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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ouch man sorry if that happened to you. im not gonna touch this one lol.. because i can only imagine how that situation is and how she views u if shes sayin stuff like this
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Her: " "you are just sitting here playing with your computer while I work around all day"
You: "You couldn't begin to understand my troubles. Just yesterday, I dropped an ice cube on the kitchen floor."
Sending the above reply will put her in her place and calm her down for sure.
You: "You couldn't begin to understand my troubles. Just yesterday, I dropped an ice cube on the kitchen floor."
Sending the above reply will put her in her place and calm her down for sure.
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Leave her speechless or don't speak
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Make me a sandwich
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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ask if she wants to do it rawdog with 5 other guys and yourself. 2 in her puss 2 in her ass and 2 in her mouth.
NSX-R
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As some of you know i own a couple of bars . These places i open them from midday till late night . I used to be with a woman some time ago and she was telling me she don’t want a man with my kind of job and wants a man with an early morning job . She was trying to degrade me like I’m some kind of a loser and not an early 20s yo dude with his own businesses. Anyway my response to her was that if she wants a guy with an early job she should date a garbage man cause they have an early morning job and is more likely to have the same status as her . She couldn’t even directly reply .
taiyuu_otoko
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
mrgoodstuff
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So you pulled up, and she normally runs a "5 guys" rotation ( like the restaurant ), she made concessions and put you in one of the holes that only had one guy in it...
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Especially the unhappy. There are holes that no man can fill.
mrgoodstuff
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That hole ( a black hole ) has consumed many men, and dragged his life downward, sometimes even destroyed. It can take many many years to recover from a bad relationship. "Happy wife happy life" means if you are with a generally "happy" person, that your life will be happy. Don't try to make someone whose chronically unhappy to be happy, they are usually "unhappy" because of how they look at and do things.
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those big holes probably need 3 or 4 guys in at once to fill. some of these women are loose as fark.
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Tell her that living together is not working out and that she needs to go and find her own place.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.