A woman says something like "you are just sitting here playing with your computer while I work around all day" about a guy thats really working (remote work or owns his own company). What is this indicative of and what/how should one reply?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What do you reply if a woman is degrading your job?
- Thread starter sosumba
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Machine10033
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Dec 29, 2017
- Messages
- 768
- Reaction score
- 1,068
- Age
- 45
Personally, it would be like water off a ducks back with me. Who cares what she thinks.... usually when I girl is attempting to push my buttons I respond with the goal of getting her fired up even more. I would probably respond maybe you should have done better in school then you could get paid to f around all day and do nothing. Or something like if you keep working hard maybe I will hire you as my secretary.
EyeOnThePrize
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jun 9, 2019
- Messages
- 1,168
- Reaction score
- 1,934
- Age
- 36
That sounds like she's envious, which is a form of flattery.
Unless you really are just sitting around doing nothing, not even trying, and sapping up taxpayer money. Then you're just a leech.
Everyone has some kind of mental issue. Some people figure out how to use it to their advantage to make something in the world. Others use it as an excuse to do nothing. It's not the disorder, it's your response to it that defines you.
If a woman says what you mentioned about my job I'd poke fun at her for being envious.
Last edited:
Who Dares Win
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 16, 2012
- Messages
- 7,426
- Reaction score
- 5,803
"yeah yeah I know, isnt it great?"
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
r4zorsharp
Banned
- Joined
- Oct 3, 2020
- Messages
- 245
- Reaction score
- 319
- Age
- 35
ouch man sorry if that happened to you. im not gonna touch this one lol.. because i can only imagine how that situation is and how she views u if shes sayin stuff like this
Black Widow Void
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Feb 24, 2010
- Messages
- 2,152
- Reaction score
- 3,796
Her: " "you are just sitting here playing with your computer while I work around all day"
You: "You couldn't begin to understand my troubles. Just yesterday, I dropped an ice cube on the kitchen floor."
Sending the above reply will put her in her place and calm her down for sure.
You: "You couldn't begin to understand my troubles. Just yesterday, I dropped an ice cube on the kitchen floor."
Sending the above reply will put her in her place and calm her down for sure.
CAPSLOCK BANDIT
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 29, 2020
- Messages
- 2,792
- Reaction score
- 2,125
Leave her speechless or don't speak
redskinsfan92
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jun 18, 2018
- Messages
- 1,827
- Reaction score
- 1,459
- Age
- 34
Make me a sandwich
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
7onriverI f
Banned
- Joined
- Jan 31, 2020
- Messages
- 604
- Reaction score
- 288
ask if she wants to do it rawdog with 5 other guys and yourself. 2 in her puss 2 in her ass and 2 in her mouth.
NSX-R
Master Don Juan
As some of you know i own a couple of bars . These places i open them from midday till late night . I used to be with a woman some time ago and she was telling me she don’t want a man with my kind of job and wants a man with an early morning job . She was trying to degrade me like I’m some kind of a loser and not an early 20s yo dude with his own businesses. Anyway my response to her was that if she wants a guy with an early job she should date a garbage man cause they have an early morning job and is more likely to have the same status as her . She couldn’t even directly reply .
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
So you pulled up, and she normally runs a "5 guys" rotation ( like the restaurant ), she made concessions and put you in one of the holes that only had one guy in it...
andreihaha
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Sep 24, 2019
- Messages
- 866
- Reaction score
- 830
- Age
- 33
Especially the unhappy. There are holes that no man can fill.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
That hole ( a black hole ) has consumed many men, and dragged his life downward, sometimes even destroyed. It can take many many years to recover from a bad relationship. "Happy wife happy life" means if you are with a generally "happy" person, that your life will be happy. Don't try to make someone whose chronically unhappy to be happy, they are usually "unhappy" because of how they look at and do things.
7onriverI f
Banned
- Joined
- Jan 31, 2020
- Messages
- 604
- Reaction score
- 288
those big holes probably need 3 or 4 guys in at once to fill. some of these women are loose as fark.
bat soup
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 10, 2020
- Messages
- 4,209
- Reaction score
- 4,701
- Age
- 46
Tell her that living together is not working out and that she needs to go and find her own place.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.