"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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what do you mean no bj's?

nice_guyeh

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girl told me she doesnt like giving head. wont do it, ever. she will take ****, give a handy but no bj..... wtf.
what do you guys think? i mean getting brains isnt #1 on my bucket list, but its up there.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Young Juan

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You're actin like she's the only girl you'll ever meet. Don't chase her, replace her
 

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girl told me she doesnt like giving head. wont do it, ever.

I would guess that she has had a bad experiences in the past. Maybe her last boyfriend and her fought over the subject. I would also guess that no guy has ever really gotten her off orally.

As for how to handle it, I think it's like the 'I don't have sex on the first date' statement or any other ridiculous and arbitrary "rule" a woman makes up out of thin air. You don't agree, and you don't argue. Instead, you attack the very idea of her making such rules in the first place. And you do that by making fun of her. I'd look at her like I felt bad for her and say "awww. You had a boyfriend with smelly balls, didn't you? That's awful. I'm so sorry." Then I would continue to rip on her as though my invented statement were true and she were simply in denial. That's what she gets for saying ridiculous things like that.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
girl told me she doesnt like giving head. wont do it, ever.

I would guess that she has had a bad experiences in the past. Maybe her last boyfriend and her fought over the subject. I would also guess that no guy has ever really gotten her off orally.

As for how to handle it, I think it's like the 'I don't have sex on the first date' statement or any other ridiculous and arbitrary "rule" a woman makes up out of thin air. You don't agree, and you don't argue. Instead, you attack the very idea of her making such rules in the first place. And you do that by making fun of her. I'd look at her like I felt bad for her and say "awww. You had a boyfriend with smelly balls, didn't you? That's awful. I'm so sorry." Then I would continue to rip on her as though my invented statement were true and she were simply in denial. That's what she gets for saying ridiculous things like that.
Hahaha. This is pretty sound advice. I'm not really a big oral guy, I'm not that big into giving it, nor receiving it, I just go for the big V. But if a girl ever tried to say this sh!t to me, I'd probably just next her instantly. But that's just me.

What kind of girl doesn't give a BJ these days? I know a lot of them suck at it.. but they should at least ATTEMPT it.

-Scars
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Zarky

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Frankly I'd be relieved. I don't really like going down on chicks, and most girls who give BJs expect you to return the favor. I just like to f*ck.
 

Who Dares Win

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Dont believe her, few months ago I met girls who were a copy of yours, one said "she doesnt do those things" while the others said "she dont like it".

It sounds ridicolous but I managed to get them do it by telling that it was ok and that they could just give a kiss to the tip and that would have made my happy.

No need to tell that once they were there some further request had them blowing me, not the porn movie ******* stile but a decent one.
Awfully didnt managed to convince to blow me till the happy ending but still it was the first time for girl nr1 and the third time for girl nr2.

It also helps to have them lying on the bed where its more easy for them to open their mouth than to push you away.
 

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My motto has always been "she gotta go if she don't blow". Personally I enjoy going down on a bird. Getting her off like that gives you an immense sense of power over her. If she doesn't return the favour then id keep her for a bit but never make her my gf. I got my last ltr to do it even though she said she didn't want\like doing it.

She maybe seeing if you're prepared to walk away if you aren't satisfied and she is trying to take control over something she knows you will want. If that's the case either walk away our find someway to reverse this by holding back on something she values in a relationship. IE attention.
 

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You could try putting honey or something sweet on your pryck. It's messy but might help her get over any issues...
 
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If a girl won't give me a Barry Johnson then she's out the door with immediate effect.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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