"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What do you have to offer?

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Island

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I have this problem with my attitude and inner state. Among them is this feeling that I really am an average guy. I did a SWOT analysis and things didn't look good. This ****s up my "I am the prize" mantra.

I just want to know, when you make your approach, what do you know you have to offer?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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fvck that mindset, you speak of the AFC mindset.
When you approach, you figure out what she has to offer YOU.

She's the one who has to prove herself to you, that she's worth your time.
 
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I truely believe that I can make any girl feel great simply by talking to them for a couple minutes. Meaning that their lives are better for having met me, aka the prize. I also qualify the hell outta a girl as far as what she has to offer me. Is she just a nice piece of @ss? Is she more than a pretty outside? Or is she not even worth my time.

Once you realize and act in a fashion that shows the girl she must earn YOUR TIME, then you'll always be successful. You gotta get out there though, can't sit behind the computer all day.


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Ok, you're right guys. How do you qualify the heck out of the girls you approach? I mean, my standards are pretty low, because I'm not necessarily hanging around after.

And why do you think I sit behind my puter all day? I only sit behind the puter when I'm relaxing. Which is bad enough actually, since it's too low energy.
 
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When a business does a SWOT analysis, they generally use that as a starting point to improve.

So use your SWOT analysis as a point to improve yourself! Elminate weaknesses, build on strengths, and you don't even need to tell women you are anything special (they will already hear it from friends, their friends, and media).
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Don't let a stupid SWOT test dictate your own self-worth. What you have to offer will be something much deeper than a test can ever evaluate. When things are right, and the chemistry is there, you will be giving her things that you didn't even realized you had to offer.

But if you are convincing yourself that you're worth nothing, you will never have the self-acceptence to even go out there and make yourself AVAILABLE to offer the shyt that you didn't even realize you had.
 
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