"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What do you guys think about this??

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Let me know what you guys think...

The first one I met at a bar with a buddy. We went back to her place and my buddy took her friend upstairs and beat her guts in. Anyway, the girl I was after went into her room and left me sitting on the couch by myself. I put a movie in and yelled to her, asking if she wanted to join me in watching the movie. She obliged and came out and sat on a separate couch. After a few minutes, she said it was too cold and said she was going back in her room and that she'd let me lay in bed next to her and watch the movie as long as I didn't get "handsy". I went in her room but I laid on the floor next to her bed. We talked and had subtle flirtation and a little kino but I was sooo tired and drunk(she was too), that I eventually fell asleep.

My question is: did I do the right thing by not laying in the bed next to her?? And do I have a chance of waxing that azz in the future?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I think it depends on how she took it. A) being she assumed you werent attracted to her. B) She might just think you were being a nice guy and there for you can earn trust points from her C) she was to drunk to remember anyway.. All in all i think you will be able to wax that azz next time
 
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He won't be waxing it. if she was interested, she'd make it known. She was just trying to be nice. Simple as that.
 
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yea that situation seemed pretty horrible...if you get ass out of that i will congratulate you
 
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It looks like you played it too safe. In response to "handsy", a good C&F response is "Just because I have to keep my hands to myself doesn't mean you can tie me up and take advantage of me (or my sexy bod)."

While in her room, if you would have gone up to her and told her to move over, she probably would make room. Then it is perfect to set up more C&F like I hope you don't have handcuffs and a gun nearby to take advantage of me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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