"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Met up with this girl the other night for a drink, we had a good time but she had to go. I’ve had sex with her several times before. We made plans for Thursday but she asked me to call her today to confirm the plans. Anyway, I try calling once and it goes straight to vm. So I sent her a text letting her know to call me. Anyway, I got this weird idea in my head that maybe she blocked me. So I blocked my number and called, sure enough it rang. Now let me tell you, I haven’t over pursued this girl or anything, she reaches out to me and I make plans with her.

So she blocked my number. Maybe she has a boyfriend and doesn’t want my name popping up on her phone while she’s with him?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You do know that sometimes phones get fvcked up and for some odd reason can't receive a call? Has happened to my phone more times than I can count. People telling me they've tried calling me all day long, but I don't receive anything and on their end it seems like it's working and I'm not responding.

There's no reason to believe she blocked you, yet you assume the worst case scenario. Try again later.
 

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I hear more and more of people not receiving their calls/texts. Has happened to several people I know personally as well as myself. The AT&T guy told me to always leave a voicemail if you are suspecting issues for a better chance of their phone actually receiving the call notification.

Don't assume anything.
 

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You do know that sometimes phones get fvcked up and for some odd reason can't receive a call? Has happened to my phone more times than I can count. People telling me they've tried calling me all day long, but I don't receive anything and on their end it seems like it's working and I'm not responding.

There's no reason to believe she blocked you, yet you assume the worst case scenario. Try again later.
On iPhone. If you block someone from your phone, the call still goes through if they call from blocked number or a different number obviously. I just did quick test and blocked number and call went through. I’m not thinking the worst. But just don’t see why I would trust a woman when she’s clearly being shady.
 

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On iPhone. If you block someone from your phone, the call still goes through if they call from blocked number or a different number obviously. I just did quick test and blocked number and call went through.
Sure, I'm not questioning how blocking a number works. I'm just saying it's not the only possible cause to what you experienced when you tried calling, so you cannot conclude she blocked you. You can't be sure of that.

I’m not thinking the worst.
You're not even considering the other possibilities... So yeah, you're assuming the worst reason, which again you can't be sure of.

But just don’t see why I would trust a woman when she’s clearly being shady.
Tell me more about this. Nowhere in your first post did you mention her doing anything shady before this happened. She was expecting a call from you, she told you to call her. Why the fvck would she do that if she didn't want to talk to you? If she was planning on blocking you there's no reason for her to tell you to call her.

Try calling tomorrow. I'm not saying you're wrong, it could very well be that you're right, but one day isn't enough to determine it. Let me know.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Sure, I'm not questioning how blocking a number works. I'm just saying it's not the only possible cause to what you experienced when you tried calling, so you cannot conclude she blocked you. You can't be sure of that.


You're not even considering the other possibilities... So yeah, you're assuming the worst reason, which again you can't be sure of.


Tell me more about this. Nowhere in your first post did you mention her doing anything shady before this happened. She was expecting a call from you, she told you to call her. Why the fvck would she do that if she didn't want to talk to you? If she was planning on blocking you there's no reason for her to tell you to call her.

Try calling tomorrow. I'm not saying you're wrong, it could very well be that you're right, but one day isn't enough to determine it. Let me know.
I just left a message on her vm. So she can get back to me.
 

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this is why I prefer using apps (snapchat, instagram, facebook messenger, whatsapp, etc.), they make it way more blatant what's going on with the other person
 
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