I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Agree . He literally just had to start fvcking some of the ladies he turns his nose down to and treat them better his game wouldve exploded.Most posters here have tried to help him for a while. I was naive as well and thought he'd be a don juan in no time. He just needed to work on a couple of little aspects and he'd be great. No progress has been made though.
For months, I've come to the realization that he is either a dedicated troll (because like Richard, he stays very loyal to his gimmick and that's what sets them apart) or someone with severe mental issues who won't do a thing about it. Either way, it's pointless to keep giving him attention on his threads because he's gonna ignore all of it.
He looks good enough to fvck ethnics in Chicago. Chasing snobs when he has no pvssy is plain dumb. Maybe he is a troll.No amount of diet is going to give you that "look". You either have it or you don't, it's determined at birth.
I think you obsess too much over looks bro. The guy in the picture is obviously handsome but you don't have to look like that to get ass. Believe it or not not all women would find him attractive, which makes worrying about your looks a waste of time.
Oh i've never seen his pic so I don't know.He looks good enough to fvck ethnics in Chicago. Chasing snobs when he has no pvssy is plain dumb. Maybe he is a troll.
We gave real world advice which will turn his situation around and he stays on this fantasy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
If that guy gained 20 lbs, he wouldn't have that look in the face anymore, not by a long shotNo amount of diet is going to give you that "look". You either have it or you don't, it's determined at birth.
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You remind me a friend of mine . He speaks exactly the same way . Actually i feel like it’s him writing this thread .I'm around 13% bodyfat right now...I very badly need to get down to 8 or 9% body fat. I actually have that classic facial structure for the chiseled jawline (wide jaw, strong low chin, high cheekbones) and my face already looks very masculine at 13% bodyfat, but at 8% BF, I would have that classic male model sunken cheeks look
I'm talking about this look
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My plan to get there is I'm going to do the protein sparing modified fast diet...which is a very low calorie, super high protein, high fiber diet that will get you shredded in no time. I need to lose 15 lbs in a month
After that point, I will get professional photos done and just hammer online dating. I figure the percentage of women who fit my requirements is maybe 2-3% of women online so if I do match, eharmony, okcupid and every other site...I can maybe find 300 or 400 women who fit my requirements. Out of that, surely a couple would be willing to go out on a date with me no? Once I get a date, I should be good
I'm going to keep trying to work on myself in real life but real life dating is so hard because I'm so ultra picky that the vast majority of women don't fit my wants and the most who do aren't going to be single anyways or they're in a situation where approaching is extremely difficult but I will continue to try to improve myself and be more confident and be more genuine around women. I think women have a great bull**** detector and they can tell when you're not being natural/genuine around them
Lol, that guy also changed from a polo shirt to a tank top, grew facial hair, put in ear rings, got a new hairstyle, put on a necklace, and took his glasses off. How is that supposed to be a fair comparison? It's worse than most female before/after pictures I've seen.
lol the face is pretty much the same. The only difference is he got a better haircut, ditched the glasses and probably went on a couple of cycles of testosterone.If that guy gained 20 lbs, he wouldn't have that look in the face anymore, not by a long shot
There is a reason all male models are like 9% BF...because at 8 or 9%, the face looks very angular and handsome. This is assuming you have a good jawline with high cheekbones and a good chin. I have a fantastic jawline with very masculine facial features. If you have fine features with a "long face", being lean looks horrible
from chubby to lean
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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
getting lean and muscular helps the face tremendouslyFolks are going to say that because the incel crowd says it that it's BS, but it doesn't matter how good the body is if the fundamental bone structure is just not quite right. I'd have to see your face to see if you have already hit your maximum.
What if they're both just Salty feminists? What kind of man would troll a site like this to that extent? It doesn't make sense.Most posters here have tried to help him for a while. I was naive as well and thought he'd be a don juan in no time. He just needed to work on a couple of little aspects and he'd be great. No progress has been made though.
For months, I've come to the realization that he is either a dedicated troll (because like Richard, he stays very loyal to his gimmick and that's what sets them apart) or someone with severe mental issues who won't do a thing about it. Either way, it's pointless to keep giving him attention on his threads because he's gonna ignore all of it.
You know what. That make sense . Maybe she wanted men to obsess on their looks like women.What if they're both just Salty feminists? What kind of man would troll a site like this to that extent? It doesn't make sense.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.