"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What do you guys like to do to gain more confidence?

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I've noticed that my confidence levels are steadily increasing... a year ago I was afraid to ask for a girls number/ask her to hang out, and now it's quite easy.

The stumbling points I'm on is approaching and the first kiss.

Anyone have any techniques on how to chill out and become more confident?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Playing certain sports or working out always helps. Just try to work up a sweat.

Also smile at and strike up mini conversations with strangers. Particularly attractive girls if you can.

I saw a cashier wearing shorts the other day and told her that must be a really cool privilege to have at work. You'd be surprised how fun and rewarding an exchange like that can be.
 
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There was a girl in line at the food court today at school who was wearing backless fluffy slippers, I was going to ask if they were comfy but she had this "I'm a huge ***** today so don't talk to me" look on her face. Ha
 
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DarkShade said:
There was a girl in line at the food court today at school who was wearing backless fluffy slippers, I was going to ask if they were comfy but she had this "I'm a huge ***** today so don't talk to me" look on her face. Ha
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Hey man, that's a good try anyway. I would have made the same approach. The key is to not even think of it as an approach. Just think of it as being friendly. You did everything right though. You'll get a better response next time.

If you're aching for confidence, you can always think of an old hook-up. Not the person you hooked up with but the acts itself. Hey, whoever it was made out with ya for a reason! :rockon:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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if we are just talking about the courage to approach and go for the kiss etc... Well there are a few things I do -

if you are feeling Fear to approach a girl, then you are assuming something bad is going to happen. Then just simply change fear to faith. ASSUME SOMETHING GOOD IS GOING TO HAPPEN - - - You are going to have FUN!! Assume that always.. You are going to have fun!!!

The biggest fear of approach is being rejected - But just have faith that even if you do get rejected you will still be having fun and doing what you want!! You will be living the life and doing the things you want to do.

Same with kissing her - If you want to kiss her then Just assume that its ok to do it - Just do it. You gotta man up - - - Confidence has a lot to do with believing in yourself. If your main goal should be to always have fun and to always do what you want! And believe that its ok to do whatever you want. Thats confidence - You are good enough, Do what you WANT, have fun!

...One trick i used when I first started up - The first weekend i REALLY went out I decided I was going to see how many rejections I could get - So that made it ok for me to fail - Looking back I would never do this again, but it did get me to approach over 100 girls in one weekend - Talk about smashing through the fear of approach.
 
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