"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Read more...

What do you guys like to do to gain more confidence?

Vice

Vice

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 23, 2007
Messages
2,004
Reaction score
186
I've noticed that my confidence levels are steadily increasing... a year ago I was afraid to ask for a girls number/ask her to hang out, and now it's quite easy.

The stumbling points I'm on is approaching and the first kiss.

Anyone have any techniques on how to chill out and become more confident?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

Read more...

T

tsmith2334

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 4, 2007
Messages
761
Reaction score
16
Location
NC
Playing certain sports or working out always helps. Just try to work up a sweat.

Also smile at and strike up mini conversations with strangers. Particularly attractive girls if you can.

I saw a cashier wearing shorts the other day and told her that must be a really cool privilege to have at work. You'd be surprised how fun and rewarding an exchange like that can be.
 
D

DarkShade

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 8, 2008
Messages
252
Reaction score
12
Location
Atlanta
There was a girl in line at the food court today at school who was wearing backless fluffy slippers, I was going to ask if they were comfy but she had this "I'm a huge ***** today so don't talk to me" look on her face. Ha
 
T

tsmith2334

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 4, 2007
Messages
761
Reaction score
16
Location
NC
DarkShade said:
There was a girl in line at the food court today at school who was wearing backless fluffy slippers, I was going to ask if they were comfy but she had this "I'm a huge ***** today so don't talk to me" look on her face. Ha
Click to expand...
Hey man, that's a good try anyway. I would have made the same approach. The key is to not even think of it as an approach. Just think of it as being friendly. You did everything right though. You'll get a better response next time.

If you're aching for confidence, you can always think of an old hook-up. Not the person you hooked up with but the acts itself. Hey, whoever it was made out with ya for a reason! :rockon:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

A

Aragon034

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 31, 2008
Messages
573
Reaction score
15
Location
T-dot
R

Randallpink83

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 17, 2006
Messages
587
Reaction score
4
Location
In the club/bars
if we are just talking about the courage to approach and go for the kiss etc... Well there are a few things I do -

if you are feeling Fear to approach a girl, then you are assuming something bad is going to happen. Then just simply change fear to faith. ASSUME SOMETHING GOOD IS GOING TO HAPPEN - - - You are going to have FUN!! Assume that always.. You are going to have fun!!!

The biggest fear of approach is being rejected - But just have faith that even if you do get rejected you will still be having fun and doing what you want!! You will be living the life and doing the things you want to do.

Same with kissing her - If you want to kiss her then Just assume that its ok to do it - Just do it. You gotta man up - - - Confidence has a lot to do with believing in yourself. If your main goal should be to always have fun and to always do what you want! And believe that its ok to do whatever you want. Thats confidence - You are good enough, Do what you WANT, have fun!

...One trick i used when I first started up - The first weekend i REALLY went out I decided I was going to see how many rejections I could get - So that made it ok for me to fail - Looking back I would never do this again, but it did get me to approach over 100 girls in one weekend - Talk about smashing through the fear of approach.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top