"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What do you guys do for a living?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
5string
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squirrels
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Strange...I always thought of frisbees as disposable. :woo:5string said:
I've gone through enough of them.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Quiksilver
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Working in a Real Estate Investment firm, specializing in insurance for high net-worth clients.
Bringing home $540/pw, however some weeks I have to work full-time where I bring in about $1100/pw. Once I graduate, that will go north to $1500/pw. In 3-5 years that will go north to around $2,300/pw ... If I choose to stay in the industry. Honestly it's not very fun right now, kinda boring and difficult at the same time.
Pays the bills.
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If it ain't broke don't fix it.
Lots of weapons systems work fine just the way they are.
there should be more hiding geeks on this site
one of girl friend asked me why so many computer/IT/technology guys on dating websites
told her that IT/computer jobs are good pay but worse social skills,girls wise
I dont do online dating
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PrettyBoyAJ
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Any tips/advice would be welcome. Especially from 5string.
5string
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I'm flattered brother. I majored in business with a minor in insurance. Quit halfway through my MBA cuz I got sick of it. I started college late as I was in the Army. Just wanted to go to work, and I did.PrettyBoyAJ said:
Kinda sounds like you should get your CPA. I have a good buddy who is a CPA. He eventually went out on his own and started his own firm. He makes tons of money and is worth several million for sure.
What do you want to do with your education? You can pm me if you wish.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
englishman
Master Don Juan
Most of the time I've been renovating and building. Bought a few houses and at one time was an indoor gardener of exotic substances.
I'm not rich, but I always set my own schedule and rarely get that Monday morning dread that a lot of people seem to.