"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What do you do when you're in a rut?

jack knife

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I'm going through a bit of a low in life right now. Just got out of a relationship, and school/work is a lot for me. I'm having trouble making it through each day.

So when you all are having times like these, what things do you do to help yourself? Me, I usually just try to eat well and sleep well, but I've been sleeping so poorly lately that I've been feeling awful. So I'd like to hear about what other people do when they are having hard times; if anything I'll be encouraged to be strong by other people's stories.

And this is my first post, so let's not flame me too much just yet, please.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What about joining the Army?

It would be a fine way to build your body, recover your shape, get a bit of money, visit foreign countries, and even earning a number of interesting stories to tell to your future girl. Don't forget how much fascination a military uniform can build inside a woman's head. No surprise that militia has the highest ranks on Hotornot.com. Most importantly you'll learn what it takes to be a man and pursue something in life.

So, do you like my idea?
 

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cA^ said:
And die in the process...great idea!
So everyone that joins the army dies? I do think it is honorable to serve your country. Although I do think it's a bit of a harsh move just to get out of a rut.

I like to think that things will heal over time.
 

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I will break it down for ya so you will understand!


There is always a cloudy day before it is sunny again. Time will heal all. Get yourself right first. If you do not, you will not be ready for a realationship or even dating. Love yourself and treat yourself right, then you can treat others right. I wouldn't suggest joining the armed forces though, unless you really want to.

Good luck and try and think good thoughts. I am at a down period in my life too. Probably getting a divorce because my wife is an alcoholic and I f**cking hate my job and I have dated 2 flakes back to back, but you know what.... If I try and maintain a positive attitude, I do feel somewhat better. Like I said, Time reveals and heals all!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've thought about the army before, but it's not something I could do. I'm too much of a humanist to contribute to taking lives.

Anyway joining the military is more of a long-term solution. Times are rough but I know they will get better. I'm just talking about the day-to-day stuff, something to do or think about to get my mind off stress until life eases up a bit.

Anyone know any good books?
 

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Psycho-cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz. It's 40 years old but the classic in self-improvement. It will help you begin to reprogram your mind to think positively with efficient thoughts to control your emotions. What you think, is what expands in the universe.
 

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If you're in a rut, mix things up. Do things you've never done before and just start changing the whole dynamic and momentum of your life. It will be slow at first, but after you get the ball rolling, your life will start to improve dramatically.

Remember: if you do the same things, you can expect the same results.

Here's a little trick I do whenever I get in a rut...Don't turn down any invitations (unless you have a schedule conflict). You'd be surprised how many people actually want to do things with us. We just get in the habit of saying "no" because we'd rather just stay home and feel sorry for ourselves. Try something different! Instead of blowing everyone off, say yes to everyone. That will fill up your calendar and help you meet some exciting new people (male and female)!
 
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