"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What do you do when you make it after faking it?

Just a Shot Away

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I had an anomaly the other day where I projected massive confidence at a workplace where there are a lot of women. I cracked a joke which caused the girl helping me and the girl helping someone else to burst out laughing, and the girl helping me proceeded to make positive comments about my physical appearance until I left. This probably sounds all well and good, but the trouble is that like I said before, it was an anomaly. I must've just been in a good mood or something or the joke opportunity was just set up perfectly. This was the first time I've gone in this business, and probably won't be the last. Since I've already set the status quo, how in the hell would I go about securing one of these chicks with absolutely no self-confidence and no self-esteem after portraying just the opposite?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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King Turi

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Well, now you they think you are confident and funny.

So just act confident and funny next time.

If you don't, they'll think their is something wrong with you when you go in acting yourself (which I'm assuming isn't confident nor funny?)
 

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You gotta keep faking it. May as well just run with it! Keep on doing this and this will eventually be natural.
 

nismo-4

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You gotta keep faking it. This is the Invincible Starman effect. You grab one, and your confidence levels go way up because you can tackle anything fearlessly without being hurt, but when it wears off, you're vulnerable again! So just run with it, because if you go back to being dull and boring, you'll lose. Keep on doing this and the c&f attitude will eventually be natural instead of a front.
 

Northern Lights

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You made them burst out laughing and had them throwing out compliments left, right and center. Sounds to me like you have all the ability in the world to be a natural Don Juan, its time to harness that ability and turn those "anomalies" into just another day in the office
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Get to work on your inner-game and the rest will come, you shouldn't have to project a false image because that falsified image is what she'll expect from you.
 
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