What do you do when you know she’s a hoe?

[Baibars]

So I met that girl online. She’s cute and young. We are supposed to meet today.
This girl is a student and is new in town. She told me she has some time to meet people and hang out until her university starts in 2 weeks.
A few hours ago she texted me that she can’t make it today. I didn’t reply.
Then she deleted the message and just replaced it with „ hey what about our date today?“.
I told her that I will able to make it.
I assume that she had other dates and somehow tries make other guys fit in her schedule (just like I do sometimes).
The thing is if something like that happens and I know a woman dates other guys even when we’re not exclusive, I won’t ever take her seriously.
Some other girls did that in the past and you’re 100 percent sure what they want when they either hit you up more or don’t want to talk anymore. That’s when you know if they’re only pursuing you.
Would you keep meeting girls like that, that spin plates for fun or would you stop meeting them as soon as you find out?

 

[holidayad_]

You did the right thing by not replying to the message she ended up deleting. One of the advantages of taking your time to reply.

As for whether I care or not, no. I don't mind. Not least because I'll be seeing other people, apart from her.

It's important to always assume that she's seeing other guys. Which is what usually happens.

You're at an advantage. You've already received the indication that this is happening. Now you have to act accordingly.

 

[Solomon]

If she is over 21 I always assume she's dealing with other guys whether dating or just talking
I do not take online dating women seriously, in my experience, most women on apps are boring, socially awkward, unhinged, shady past, former party girls, ran through, delusional, entitled, etc

Even pretty women on apps can be very judgemental, uncouth, mean-spirited just nasty women. For me to take one seriously she has to make a genuine effort and meet my standards.

 

[BPH]

I don't get it...

Some of you guys want to date and f*** all these women, but your dealbreaker is when SHE sees other people too. Attractive women have so many options, yet some of you seem to be offended by the fact that you're not some special snowflake she's saving herself for.

 

[BaronOfHair]

So I met that girl online. She’s cute and young. We are supposed to meet today.
This girl is a student and is new in town. She told me she has some time to meet people and hang out until her university starts in 2 weeks.
A few hours ago she texted me that she can’t make it today. I didn’t reply.
Then she deleted the message and just replaced it with „ hey what about our date today?“.
I told her that I will able to make it.
I assume that she had other dates and somehow tries make other guys fit in her schedule (just like I do sometimes).
The thing is if something like that happens and I know a woman dates other guys even when we’re not exclusive, I won’t ever take her seriously.
Some other girls did that in the past and you’re 100 percent sure what they want when they either hit you up more or don’t want to talk anymore. That’s when you know if they’re only pursuing you.
Would you keep meeting girls like that, that spin plates for fun or would you stop meeting them as soon as you find out?

If you both haven't agreed to be exclusive, either out loud/verbally or perhaps even in writing(No, I'm not kidding. Even pre-MeToo, this was a precaution worth taking), then you have no reasonable that she's not bedding guys in addition to yourself

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Listen to this song and they will tell you.

 

[plumber]

you a hoe, she a hoe, hoe ho ho.

 

[Baibars]

When you get beyond a certain age, a lay count is certain and, most likely, higher than yours.

Just get a woman with taste, so you know she banged lots of high quality men, not hobos. Or rappers, pimps, pornstars and standup comedians.

hell naw

 

[Lotus Effect]

I assume that she had other dates and somehow tries make other guys fit in her schedule (just like I do sometimes).
The thing is if something like that happens and I know a woman dates other guys even when we’re not exclusive, I won’t ever take her seriously.

Then you can't take anyone seriously bro

This:

Some of you guys want to date and f*** all these women, but your dealbreaker is when SHE sees other people too. Attractive women have so many options, yet some of you seem to be offended by the fact that you're not some special snowflake she's saving herself for.

This:

It's important to always assume that she's seeing other guys. Which is what usually happens.

And this:

you a hoe, she a hoe, hoe ho ho.

Rule 14 bro, either go for many, or go for none, if you go for one, you are an AFC.
You should follow this as gospel.

If you are not following it, rest assured they are.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I would need more details about this girl but my first impression after reading your description is that she is not a “*****”.

Aside from being an extremely derogatory term, you need to understand that the dating game operates this way: both men and women often "talk" to as many people as possible until they find the right match. Even if you are her top choice, she may still have one or two backup options in case things don't work out with you, and you should do the same. When you ask for exclusivity and she accepts, the dynamic might change, but ideally, both parties need to go through numerous "applications" to determine if they are a good fit for each other.

However, if we are talking about the c0ck carousel…

 

[Macadellic]

Invite her out to a place you’ll be (take her out)
with your other plate(s).

Ho/s love this.

 

[Lotus Effect]

Aside from being an extremely derogatory term

They really did some work on you brother

 

[Clockwerk50]

They really did some work on you brother

What do you mean?

 

[Lotus Effect]

I mean that this is a men's forum, and you should not be afraid of saying the word b!tch.

Literally, I mean that society/today's norm really got into your head.

Although I agree that OP is inferring a lot, and she did not demonstrated sIutty behaviour.

 

[Chow Mein]

Just enjoy what you have and filter for LTR material. Don’t make it complicated

 

[Clockwerk50]

I mean that this is a men's forum, and you should not be afraid of saying the word b!tch.

Literally, I mean that society/today's norm really got into your head.

Although I agree that OP is inferring a lot, and she did not demonstrated sIutty behaviour.

You are assuming I am scared of saying b!tch.

Anyways, it is what it is. Thanks for the reply.

 

[Lotus Effect]

Aside from being an extremely derogatory term

 

[Divorced w 3]

The most important lesson I have learned is that women are the biggest plate spinners of the two sexes, especially when they get older, no matter how much they try and protest to the contrary. They will brag to their girlfriends about it. Why then, don’t we do the same and why do we, the men actually tend to feel the more sympathetic and worse about it?

When in doubt, use the house shopping analogy…. After you see enough of them, you know when you found the right one, but you have to be out there comparing and contrasting

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

"They’re all hoes except your mom and the one you marry"

Once you inculcate that axiom, you good.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Use her for recreational purposes and know she has a shelf life. In others words don't let yourself get sucked down the hole, literally.