"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What do you do when you have a gf but not satisfied?

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I'm in the situation where I have a good looking girlfriend but I got so accustomed to having sex with her so now I don't really get all that excited anymore because I've had her many times already so the novelty is gone.

Should I break it up? We've been together for a few months and I don't want to hurt her but I feel the relationship is kind of doomed already and it would be worse if I keep it lagging longer. When I have sex with her I'm always imagining other girls, but she makes me feel better physically than most other girls I've been with so I'm on the fence. I have a good looking girlfriend but I still feel jealous when I look at other couples, maybe that means there's something wrong. Maybe I need a harem with a few uncommitted **** friends instead of being in a relationship but I'm very much afraid of getting STDs.

Any suggestions?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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start dating other women...if you find one that you like better, break up with her. Until then, stay with her.
 
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pdx1138 said:
start dating other women...if you find one that you like better, break up with her. Until then, stay with her.
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^stupid and selfish advice.

OP, if your gut feels it is a doomed relationship and the sex feels stale to you, then just bail. Do it as best you can to not hurt her too much, but let the girl go.

You gota find a girl who will make you feel the way you said you see other couples feel.

Dont be a cheater or go behind her back to date other women, because imagine if she does it to you. Youd feel like crap if a girl you really fancied did that, right?

Good Luck
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I agree with Jaylan, if you are unhappy, you should break it off and save you both heartache in the future. If she is doing something wrong tell her what is bothering you if you still feel like it can go somewhere. If you feel it will go no where do not hesitate to break it off, cleanly and for keeps, no caving when she cries. What I told my last girlfriend when I broke up with her was do you really still want to be with me if I am not happy in the relationship? Would we not just be wasting time? She got the message left and never contacted me again and I have never contacted her again.
 
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HalfAddict said:
I agree with Jaylan, if you are unhappy, you should break it off and save you both heartache in the future. If she is doing something wrong tell her what is bothering you if you still feel like it can go somewhere. If you feel it will go no where do not hesitate to break it off, cleanly and for keeps, no caving when she cries. What I told my last girlfriend when I broke up with her was do you really still want to be with me if I am not happy in the relationship? Would we not just be wasting time? She got the message left and never contacted me again and I have never contacted her again.
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She's not doing anything wrong, afaik... it's really more of an emotional thing. I don't hate her but I feel that she likes me much more than I like her, and it makes me feel bad. But she does so many things to please me that other girls don't do, I don't know why I feel the way I do. **** I'm talking like a damn teenager now.

I'll probably tell her I need a week or two apart maybe, see how my feelings evolve during that time if I start missing her. I rarely ever stay platonic with just one girl for more than a couple of months so I'm not used to real relationships... I'm really just accustomed to being with people without much commitment.
 
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It sounds like you're just over the stage of infatuation with the girl. This happens in all relationships. Try and get a little freakier in the bedroom. role play fantasies you two have had or something to that extent.
 
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pdx1138 said:
start dating other women...if you find one that you like better, break up with her. Until then, stay with her.
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You're a ****head! I love it! LoL.

Anyway, if you want to make it work you have to make it fun. Get a little creative.

But if nothing works it's not meant to be.
 
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