"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What do you do when you first meet a girl?

Volpez

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Say you are talking to someone online, when you meet them do you shake their hand, give them a hug, do nothing?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Andromax

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The DJ Bible

I'm assuming you haven't taken a look here.
 

L B

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If her looks does not disgust you, shake her hand.
If she's cute or better, hug her.
If she is down right ugly, do nothing.
 

New2Town

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Well, when I first meet them, I try to make them as comfortable as possible, but then she usually has to go change.

I wait in her kitchen and take out the alcohol, the condoms and handcuffs.

Unfortunately, a few minutes later, her father figures walks out from behind a corner and starts asking me weird questions, like "why are you here?" and "do you know how old she is?"

Eventually, I am thrown into handcuffs and taken to jail for more questioning.

My advice to you is if a guy named Chris Hansen and he's from Dateline NBC, run.
 

zinc64

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I don't think hugging is the best option but you need to say something to make her feel at ease like oh you look nice...but in a sincere tone.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ready123

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it doesn't matter what you do, as long as it's not wierd

don't waste your time focusing on details that won't matter once you open your mouth

you plan to open your mouth right?
 

saber

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always go for the hug right at the start!!! this is not an option

i have gona on a blind date (when i started this dj journey) and it worked just fine
 
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