"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What do you do when you can't judge IL???

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Tantric

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I met a girl in class (HB8) who i would have normally made a move on by now, but i can't gauge her interest level. She told me a while ago that when she likes a guy she doesn't flirt that much and will not make a move or let him know because she is too shy about it.

Her and i have hung out a few times, gone for dinner...and we always have a great time...so...that's good right?

I am used to girls that are really flirty, crazy, wild, outgoing...and she is the opposite, so it's kinda hard to tell.

Plus I've never "dated" anyone before...all the girl i have been with were fvck buddies, friends with benefits, ONS...so it's really different for me...not sure how to deal with "dating" or even how to go about it.

Some guy she hooked up with over a year ago back in Virginia is also messing with her head...he moved out here recently, and i guess he's been giving her the impression for almost 8 months that he is moving out here for her. He hasn't spoken to her and from what she has told me seems like he's not interested. She's actually fed up with him.

Should I be doing anything at all, or should i just let happen what is happening?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Try and lay the best kiss on her that she's ever had.
 
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Tantric

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I figured i go by the whole, "if she doesn't say anything, assume she is interested" saying.

i guess i'm also hesitating because she is in my class and i am working on a project with her...don't want to do anything stupid.
 
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Umm

Dont worry about the other guy, its pointless and there is nothing you can do about it.

You have hung out and gone out to dinner with her, its pretty obvious she wants to hang out. Getting dinner is the important part. That is pretty close to a date, if it wasnt one already. So you need to continue to get together, flirt, touch, tease.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by Tantric
I figured i go by the whole, "if she doesn't say anything, assume she is interested" saying.

i guess i'm also hesitating because she is in my class and i am working on a project with her...don't want to do anything stupid.
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if you don't do jack, you'll never ever get your answer.

but go ahead, keep stalling and wait to see how interested she is for you.
 
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Well...I'll ask her for dinner this weekend...see what happens. I'm not really paying too much attention to the "other guy"...sounds like a loser what she has told me.

i'll let you know what happens.
 
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