What do you do when you can't judge IL???

[Tantric]

I met a girl in class (HB8) who i would have normally made a move on by now, but i can't gauge her interest level. She told me a while ago that when she likes a guy she doesn't flirt that much and will not make a move or let him know because she is too shy about it.

Her and i have hung out a few times, gone for dinner...and we always have a great time...so...that's good right?

I am used to girls that are really flirty, crazy, wild, outgoing...and she is the opposite, so it's kinda hard to tell.

Plus I've never "dated" anyone before...all the girl i have been with were fvck buddies, friends with benefits, ONS...so it's really different for me...not sure how to deal with "dating" or even how to go about it.

Some guy she hooked up with over a year ago back in Virginia is also messing with her head...he moved out here recently, and i guess he's been giving her the impression for almost 8 months that he is moving out here for her. He hasn't spoken to her and from what she has told me seems like he's not interested. She's actually fed up with him.

Should I be doing anything at all, or should i just let happen what is happening?

 

[lao tzu]

Try and lay the best kiss on her that she's ever had.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

I had a situation like this a few months back and I just proceeded by assuming she was interested.

 

[Tantric]

I figured i go by the whole, "if she doesn't say anything, assume she is interested" saying.

i guess i'm also hesitating because she is in my class and i am working on a project with her...don't want to do anything stupid.

 

[Scought]

Umm

Dont worry about the other guy, its pointless and there is nothing you can do about it.

You have hung out and gone out to dinner with her, its pretty obvious she wants to hang out. Getting dinner is the important part. That is pretty close to a date, if it wasnt one already. So you need to continue to get together, flirt, touch, tease.

 

[DeathDealer]

Originally posted by Tantric
I figured i go by the whole, "if she doesn't say anything, assume she is interested" saying.

i guess i'm also hesitating because she is in my class and i am working on a project with her...don't want to do anything stupid.

if you don't do jack, you'll never ever get your answer.

but go ahead, keep stalling and wait to see how interested she is for you.

 

[Tantric]

Well...I'll ask her for dinner this weekend...see what happens. I'm not really paying too much attention to the "other guy"...sounds like a loser what she has told me.

i'll let you know what happens.