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What do you do when she goes to college

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I met a girl during winter break, and we have really bonded since. Long story short, she has to go back to college next month lol. It's been too early for her to bring up the relationship status, but I'm pretty sure she will drop the bomb before she leaves. Weekends are precious to me because I work on them, so I wouldn't be able to see her most of the spring. I'm not going to ask about spring break until she asks what are we lol. One red flag is that she is young, but I've had to pretty much break her in sexually. What do???
 

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Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Nothing.

That's what I do with my college plate. I literally do not do anything. I continue living (go ghost while she's gone) and we only communicate when she hits me up.

College girls get a whole lot of attention and can get carried away with college life/parties so before you go all exclusive understand SHE IS IN COLLEGE.


No dont ask about spring break, let her initiate you meeting while she's away while you focus on seeing her whenever she comes home.


Young or being in college isn't necessarily a red flag, how she behaves is.

One thing though, please fcuk her before she leaves and treat it like its your last fcuk. You never know.

The time to allow yourself get attached is after she's done with college.
 

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stevo said:
Nothing.

That's what I do with my college plate. I literally do not do anything. I continue living (go ghost while she's gone) and we only communicate when she hits me up.

College girls get a whole lot of attention and can get carried away with college life/parties so before you go all exclusive understand SHE IS IN COLLEGE.


No dont ask about spring break, let her initiate you meeting while she's away while you focus on seeing her whenever she comes home.


Young or being in college isn't necessarily a red flag, how she behaves is.

One thing though, please fcuk her before she leaves and treat it like its your last fcuk. You never know.

The time to allow yourself get attached is after she's done with college.
If she asks me to be her boyfriend than I just can't just ghost her for a whole semester. She goes to a religious zealot college if that adds any discussion. I was only going to ask about spring break later if she asked to be together.
 

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No you cannot just go ghost after accepting a relationship. You'd have to be a committal DJ and your actions would be different from a non committal DJ (which is everything in my previous post).

If you do qualify her to be girlfriend material and choose to be exclusive with her then forget everything I posted above but hold on to her doing more than you. Her being more invested, her asking you "when next would we see" more than you ask her.

How about you hold off asking her about spring break for now, if it gets closer to spring break and she doesn't bring it up, then you can bring it up.

She going to a religious college makes it generally better than a party school but again it boils down to the girl.
 

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stevo said:
No you cannot just go ghost after accepting a relationship. You'd have to be a committal DJ and your actions would be different from a non committal DJ (which is everything in my previous post).

If you do qualify her to be girlfriend material and choose to be exclusive with her then forget everything I posted above but hold on to her doing more than you. Her being more invested, her asking you "when next would we see" more than you ask her.

How about you hold off asking her about spring break for now, if it gets closer to spring break and she doesn't bring it up, then you can bring it up.

She going to a religious college makes it generally better than a party school but again it boils down to the girl.
Ya, I am very familiar with the 2/3rd rule or something lol. I was going to wait till like February to ask about it. My theory is that if a girl is going to cheat than she will find a way to cheat. A girl could live with me and still find a way to cheat on me.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dhoulmagus said:
I met a girl during winter break, and we have really bonded since. Long story short, she has to go back to college next month lol. ...

What do???

Uh if you can get one college age girl then you can get 100 college age girls so... uhhhh... this is pretty simple.
 

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Dhoulmagus said:
Ya, I am very familiar with the 2/3rd rule or something lol. I was going to wait till like February to ask about it. My theory is that if a girl is going to cheat than she will find a way to cheat. A girl could live with me and still find a way to cheat on me.
If you talked about the relationship thing now then yeah Feb should be good, but hold off even further if you can:up: .


We need more stories like this on here.
 

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Update: She spent the night Sunday night and she brought up that we should be together and asked if me I wanted to. She told me that she was probably going to try to transfer to my school once spring ended. I told her I like her too, but we have two weeks to till she leaves and to worry about it later. Is this a bad idea or not? Don't say she'll be balls deep in 5 guys there because that could happen in any relationship and I would just dump her. Problem solved. The only positive I see is that I have an excuse to stay focused on school and not actively look for girls.
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
write her off
Why would I write off a hot plate that has sex with me at any given moment?
 
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