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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What do you do when she goes to college

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I met a girl during winter break, and we have really bonded since. Long story short, she has to go back to college next month lol. It's been too early for her to bring up the relationship status, but I'm pretty sure she will drop the bomb before she leaves. Weekends are precious to me because I work on them, so I wouldn't be able to see her most of the spring. I'm not going to ask about spring break until she asks what are we lol. One red flag is that she is young, but I've had to pretty much break her in sexually. What do???
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Nothing.

That's what I do with my college plate. I literally do not do anything. I continue living (go ghost while she's gone) and we only communicate when she hits me up.

College girls get a whole lot of attention and can get carried away with college life/parties so before you go all exclusive understand SHE IS IN COLLEGE.


No dont ask about spring break, let her initiate you meeting while she's away while you focus on seeing her whenever she comes home.


Young or being in college isn't necessarily a red flag, how she behaves is.

One thing though, please fcuk her before she leaves and treat it like its your last fcuk. You never know.

The time to allow yourself get attached is after she's done with college.
 

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stevo said:
Nothing.

That's what I do with my college plate. I literally do not do anything. I continue living (go ghost while she's gone) and we only communicate when she hits me up.

College girls get a whole lot of attention and can get carried away with college life/parties so before you go all exclusive understand SHE IS IN COLLEGE.


No dont ask about spring break, let her initiate you meeting while she's away while you focus on seeing her whenever she comes home.


Young or being in college isn't necessarily a red flag, how she behaves is.

One thing though, please fcuk her before she leaves and treat it like its your last fcuk. You never know.

The time to allow yourself get attached is after she's done with college.
If she asks me to be her boyfriend than I just can't just ghost her for a whole semester. She goes to a religious zealot college if that adds any discussion. I was only going to ask about spring break later if she asked to be together.
 

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No you cannot just go ghost after accepting a relationship. You'd have to be a committal DJ and your actions would be different from a non committal DJ (which is everything in my previous post).

If you do qualify her to be girlfriend material and choose to be exclusive with her then forget everything I posted above but hold on to her doing more than you. Her being more invested, her asking you "when next would we see" more than you ask her.

How about you hold off asking her about spring break for now, if it gets closer to spring break and she doesn't bring it up, then you can bring it up.

She going to a religious college makes it generally better than a party school but again it boils down to the girl.
 

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stevo said:
No you cannot just go ghost after accepting a relationship. You'd have to be a committal DJ and your actions would be different from a non committal DJ (which is everything in my previous post).

If you do qualify her to be girlfriend material and choose to be exclusive with her then forget everything I posted above but hold on to her doing more than you. Her being more invested, her asking you "when next would we see" more than you ask her.

How about you hold off asking her about spring break for now, if it gets closer to spring break and she doesn't bring it up, then you can bring it up.

She going to a religious college makes it generally better than a party school but again it boils down to the girl.
Ya, I am very familiar with the 2/3rd rule or something lol. I was going to wait till like February to ask about it. My theory is that if a girl is going to cheat than she will find a way to cheat. A girl could live with me and still find a way to cheat on me.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Dhoulmagus said:
I met a girl during winter break, and we have really bonded since. Long story short, she has to go back to college next month lol. ...

What do???

Uh if you can get one college age girl then you can get 100 college age girls so... uhhhh... this is pretty simple.
 

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Dhoulmagus said:
Ya, I am very familiar with the 2/3rd rule or something lol. I was going to wait till like February to ask about it. My theory is that if a girl is going to cheat than she will find a way to cheat. A girl could live with me and still find a way to cheat on me.
If you talked about the relationship thing now then yeah Feb should be good, but hold off even further if you can:up: .


We need more stories like this on here.
 

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Update: She spent the night Sunday night and she brought up that we should be together and asked if me I wanted to. She told me that she was probably going to try to transfer to my school once spring ended. I told her I like her too, but we have two weeks to till she leaves and to worry about it later. Is this a bad idea or not? Don't say she'll be balls deep in 5 guys there because that could happen in any relationship and I would just dump her. Problem solved. The only positive I see is that I have an excuse to stay focused on school and not actively look for girls.
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
write her off
Why would I write off a hot plate that has sex with me at any given moment?
 
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