"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What do you do when a girl straight up tells you she likes you?

snintel

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This girl got drunk and called me up a while ago, and she kept saying "I like you soo much, why dont you like me....." stuff like that, constantly. The next morning she was sober and told me that she meant all that she said.

It was pretty awkward handling it, I'm not really into her, anyways she lives 1000 miles away. When a girl straight up tells you "I like you", it's kinda weird to handle. I'm not talking about a girl youre flirting with and shes like "You're funny/cute/whatever, I like you." I can play that off with C&F. But even if I *did* like her, I wouldnt say I did.

But if its a girl youve known for a while, and she gets in a really vulnerable moment and admits that to you, I don't want to be an ass. What do YOU do?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This is my first post so I suppose my credibility is dubious at best, but I think your best angle is the 1000 miles of seperation. Better to blame situational aspects than to reject her outright...unless of course you don't care about her feelings...in which case it doesn't really matter now does it? Good luck with handling that...
 

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Originally posted by snintel
anyways she lives 1000 miles away.
This situation shoudn't be much of an ordeal. LDR's are a huge mistake especially if you're not even dating the girl. My advice would be to bring her back to the reality of the sitation that you two wouldn't have a chance if you had gone out in the past then were seperated by distance, but since you weren't together and you're seprated none the less, you're chances at happiness together are not very promising.

Distance may make the heart grow fonder, but that's no excuse for the mind not funcitoning correctly to begin with. Lay it on the line with her (I mean you dont even like her so it's not big deal anyway right) be honest about your feelings and the futility of the situation regardless.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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kiLLaBee

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For some strange reaon those kind of girls are never what we are looking for :) But for guys who are just looking easy pieace of ass, i would say same words back and kiss her and take her somewhere :)
 

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make her believe that you *care* about her. send her an email/call once in a while. but keep continuing your game. that way you will have a fresh piece of ass waiting for you whenever (or if) you ever decide to go there.

:)

that's what i did. i kept hooking up with chicks in my town, but kept contact with a chick in another town that was really into me. that way i had a free pass to some ass and parties whenever i went there.

field tested and approved.
 

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What really frustrates me about reading this is that if a guy was to say that, he'd be looked at as an Uber-AFC (plus there would be no chance of getting tail).

But because its a girl, she can get away with saying pathetic sh*t like that (and could still possibly get sex as a result).

If you said that to a woman, 95% of them would laugh, put you in the friends zone and proceed to use and manipulate you from then on. So why shouldn't we do the same to them?

This isn't what I'm recommending incidentally. Because we are DJs, not insensitive wh*res. So I would go with the 'long distance' thing instead. That is the easiest option for both of you.
 

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in person:

Her: "I like you a lot"
you: "I like you too, wana fvck????" (looking straight in her eyes, confidently, and then after 2 seconds give her a half smile)

over the phone:

her; "I like you a lot"
you; "awwww, your so sweet, now did you say this was a booty call??"
 

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Originally posted by spider_007
her; "I like you a lot"
you; "awwww, your so sweet, now did you say this was a booty call??"
ha-ha, nice.

Do to her what chicks do to men that make them go crazy

I was thinking the same thing... :D
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Gonzalo

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"you strike me as a person with really fine taste" ;)
 

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This ones easy:

LJBF her.

"I like you too much as a friend..."

You know the routine.
 

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Originally posted by AFK Protector
lol what?

Dude, wtf are you, a woman? Don't be a girl and play games.

TAKE CHARGE AND TAKE WHAT YOU WANT.
1) No, I'm not a woman

2) He asked for a nice way to reject her. I gave him one that was likely to work without offending her. It happens to be what women do - so what? Just because women wash their hair doesn't mean that you shouldn't do the same. Just because women drive cars doesn't mean that you shouldn't do the same. Just because women eat food doesn't mean that you shouldn't do the same. Just because...well, you get the point.

Perhaps concentrate on what works, rather than worrying all the time if its construed to be what "women" do...

3) He doesn't even want her! Read the first post in the thread. Thats what I'm replying to.

If he wanted to know what to do if he actually liked her, I'd say things completely different to what I've said here.

Does that explain things?
 
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