"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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What do you do when a girl straight up tells you she likes you?

snintel

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This girl got drunk and called me up a while ago, and she kept saying "I like you soo much, why dont you like me....." stuff like that, constantly. The next morning she was sober and told me that she meant all that she said.

It was pretty awkward handling it, I'm not really into her, anyways she lives 1000 miles away. When a girl straight up tells you "I like you", it's kinda weird to handle. I'm not talking about a girl youre flirting with and shes like "You're funny/cute/whatever, I like you." I can play that off with C&F. But even if I *did* like her, I wouldnt say I did.

But if its a girl youve known for a while, and she gets in a really vulnerable moment and admits that to you, I don't want to be an ass. What do YOU do?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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This is my first post so I suppose my credibility is dubious at best, but I think your best angle is the 1000 miles of seperation. Better to blame situational aspects than to reject her outright...unless of course you don't care about her feelings...in which case it doesn't really matter now does it? Good luck with handling that...
 

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Originally posted by snintel
anyways she lives 1000 miles away.
This situation shoudn't be much of an ordeal. LDR's are a huge mistake especially if you're not even dating the girl. My advice would be to bring her back to the reality of the sitation that you two wouldn't have a chance if you had gone out in the past then were seperated by distance, but since you weren't together and you're seprated none the less, you're chances at happiness together are not very promising.

Distance may make the heart grow fonder, but that's no excuse for the mind not funcitoning correctly to begin with. Lay it on the line with her (I mean you dont even like her so it's not big deal anyway right) be honest about your feelings and the futility of the situation regardless.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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For some strange reaon those kind of girls are never what we are looking for :) But for guys who are just looking easy pieace of ass, i would say same words back and kiss her and take her somewhere :)
 

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make her believe that you *care* about her. send her an email/call once in a while. but keep continuing your game. that way you will have a fresh piece of ass waiting for you whenever (or if) you ever decide to go there.

:)

that's what i did. i kept hooking up with chicks in my town, but kept contact with a chick in another town that was really into me. that way i had a free pass to some ass and parties whenever i went there.

field tested and approved.
 

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What really frustrates me about reading this is that if a guy was to say that, he'd be looked at as an Uber-AFC (plus there would be no chance of getting tail).

But because its a girl, she can get away with saying pathetic sh*t like that (and could still possibly get sex as a result).

If you said that to a woman, 95% of them would laugh, put you in the friends zone and proceed to use and manipulate you from then on. So why shouldn't we do the same to them?

This isn't what I'm recommending incidentally. Because we are DJs, not insensitive wh*res. So I would go with the 'long distance' thing instead. That is the easiest option for both of you.
 

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in person:

Her: "I like you a lot"
you: "I like you too, wana fvck????" (looking straight in her eyes, confidently, and then after 2 seconds give her a half smile)

over the phone:

her; "I like you a lot"
you; "awwww, your so sweet, now did you say this was a booty call??"
 

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Originally posted by spider_007
her; "I like you a lot"
you; "awwww, your so sweet, now did you say this was a booty call??"
ha-ha, nice.

Do to her what chicks do to men that make them go crazy

I was thinking the same thing... :D
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"you strike me as a person with really fine taste" ;)
 

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This ones easy:

LJBF her.

"I like you too much as a friend..."

You know the routine.
 

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Originally posted by AFK Protector
lol what?

Dude, wtf are you, a woman? Don't be a girl and play games.

TAKE CHARGE AND TAKE WHAT YOU WANT.
1) No, I'm not a woman

2) He asked for a nice way to reject her. I gave him one that was likely to work without offending her. It happens to be what women do - so what? Just because women wash their hair doesn't mean that you shouldn't do the same. Just because women drive cars doesn't mean that you shouldn't do the same. Just because women eat food doesn't mean that you shouldn't do the same. Just because...well, you get the point.

Perhaps concentrate on what works, rather than worrying all the time if its construed to be what "women" do...

3) He doesn't even want her! Read the first post in the thread. Thats what I'm replying to.

If he wanted to know what to do if he actually liked her, I'd say things completely different to what I've said here.

Does that explain things?
 
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